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Why is there a lot more of: HE needs to change his habits to accommodate me Rather than a: let’s compromise! Because it’s a relationship of love! I’m just want your guys’ input cause I know I can’t ask other girls or they’ll grill me for it.
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Anonymous 14w

Some women have pretty big egos and refuse to acknowledge their flaws or mistakes. This and that women have a significantly easier time finding relationships which further inflates their egos and makes men more desperate to keep their partners to where they might not argue to avoid breaking up. There’s a lot of sayings like “happy wife happy life” and “women are always right” where relationships between men and women are often focused on appeasing women in exchange for a relationship and sex

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Anonymous 14w

Hate me all you want for saying this. It's because of their inflated sense of value that they believe a man is replaceable if he doesn't conform to her desires. In my opinion, it's a direct result of social media and more specifically the "girl boss" culture. I'd recommend finding a more mature woman that values your thoughts.

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Anonymous 14w

I agree it should be communicated on both since relationships go both ways

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Anonymous 14w

Most of the folks against compromising in a relationship also can't hold healthy relationships, so it tends to work itself out.

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Anonymous 14w

I feel like you can’t really gender a relationship that lacks compromise. From what I’ve seen, the person who refuses to compromise and says the other person has to accommodate them is just the one that wants to feel more needed/useful/superior to the other person and I’ve seen that in all kinda of relationships so🤷🏻‍♂️

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Anonymous 14w

Ego that’s it they refuse to believe they have something wrong so it must be the guy and he needs to change completely

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Anonymous 14w

everyone else makes decent points, but it also heavily depends on the issue. If it’s something like hygiene, that’s very much something that one person fixes and not something to compromise on. Sometimes people also just generally want more of some sort of affection, and there’s not really an easy way to compromise on that, since the goal is already just some sort of increase.

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Anonymous 14w

what do you want to compromise on?

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Anonymous 14w

I feel like a lot of woman who preach empowerment, loving themselves, self-respect and setting boundaries are actually only preaching narcissism , selfishness and entitlement. (I say this as a woman.) Those things by themselves are good but not when used to control/manipulate others. Relationships have two people in it not one.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 14w

Sadly this creates a flawed relationship dynamic where communication is lacking. It basically just comes down to either appeasing women out of hope for an exchange for something they want or out of fear of losing a partner and dealing with trying to find someone new

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 14w

My dad has told me the “happy wife happy life” things a couple times too haha, but I doubt it’s for sex at all cause well… they don’t do that anymore, or at least I HOPE because I’d feel a little awkward

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14w

Well they probably still do at least occasionally. STDs are very common in nursing homes and imagining people that old doing it is both nightmare fuel and unbelievable and yet they still do it

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 14w

Agreed. Empowerment for women is obviously good but the whole “it’s my way or the highway” bit is unrealistic and even narcissistic. Being able to easily replace who they’re dating feeds this by allowing them to get away with it because men would be passive in order to continue dating or the woman can flat out replace them with ease. The amount of men would also skyrocket their ego which creates a positive feedback loop

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 14w

I guess I should also add that I feel like guys are generally less likely to make requests like that, and it makes it hard to say “We’ll work on these two things” if there’s not something the guy is comfortable asking the girl to work on, whether that’s because he can’t think of something or because he doesn’t want to hurt her feelings

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 14w

Well I just got nightmare fuel 2x 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 14w

Yeah but then they break up and go prey on others :/

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Anonymous replying to -> #11 14w

I thought similarly to this. The only ones I’ve seen have true difficulties that need that sort of uplifting talk are the ones who are unable to stand up for themselves or have lived life as a pleaser.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 13w

I mean I don’t think social media helps, but this has been around waaaay longer than that

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