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Ask Men 12w
guys i need advice, me and my guy best friend just fucked and we’ve known each other for ten years. is this going to change everything?
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Anonymous 12w

Is it going to change?… obviously yeah!

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Anonymous 12w

What do you want ?

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Anonymous 12w

yeah you cant really go back to friends imo

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Anonymous 12w

There’s no going back. He wants this, he got a taste, he’ll want more.

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Anonymous 12w

as a woman who has avoidant attachment style so take this as a grain of salt i would say to give him space until you know exactly what you want

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Anonymous 12w

could it help that he lives farther from me and was just visiting for the weekend? maybe it can be brushed off since we don’t see each other regularly

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Anonymous replying to -> oranguru 12w

to start the same as before, we were drunk and don’t like each other like that

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 12w

Damn. Your best chance is just to communicate that

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 12w

Also, it’s obvious that you two feel some kind of way about the other. Alcohol just brought all that to the surface

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 12w

Correction: YOU don’t like HIM like that (while sober). He’s wanted to do that for years. Anyway, he’s gonna be a little disappointed to learn that you don’t have what you consider real feelings for him and/or don’t want a repeat. BUT he probably won’t give up or stop being your friend. If anything, the biggest change on his end is that he (at least as of now) has more hope than ever. He’s prob feeling vindicated right now

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 12w

i’m gonna talk with him tn 😬 any tips or advice?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 12w

Do so in person and dress sexy, comes to mind. But really it depends on what you’re hoping to accomplish? You kinda have all the cards so the biggest thing is to reflect beforehand on your feelings and how sure you are of what you want and what you don’t. You probably can’t make him (truly) give up. But whether to be friends (wb or not) is up to you and he’s likely to follow your lead on that. Unless of course you make him think it’s an obstacle to a relationship and/or sleeping with you again

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 12w

i think that’s what need to do, we didn’t end up talking last night and i have no idea what to say to him. at the most we need to talk about how to tell or not tell people. we used to be able to tell people we were talking to or dating that they never had to worry about us and that nothing has ever happened, but now that something has it’ll change that :/

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 12w

a part of me is nervous about this especially because he kept saying how good i feel (multiple times, and we did two rounds 😭)

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 12w

Okay… and?.?.?. Would you rather him say you felt like a dead cow? 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 12w

Girl! You’re winning! Take the W and be happy!

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 12w

i like a vocal guy don’t get me wrong, but idk usually the first time i fuck someone you aren’t as verbally vocal haha

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 12w

it just kinda threw me off considering he’s my best friend haha, we rarely even compliment eachother so it’s just a little weird

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