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so if a guy asks me about my body count and i tell him i don't feel comfortable sharing, but disclose im not a virgin would you consider that lying or a red flag? i just don't really see why it's relevant.
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Anonymous 5w

It's not lying if you're just honest that you don't want to disclose that. Whether or not that's a red flag depends on whether the guy cares about body count, which if they were asking they probably do.

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Anonymous 5w

Girl here, I would explain why you’re uncomfortable. If he gets upset about it kick him out. You set a boundary he must respect it

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Anonymous 5w

Well by saying that 1000% guaranteed that he will assume it’s high. If I were you I would come up with something flirty to say which might distract him from that. But that should only be temporary until ur comfortable

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Anonymous 5w

i mean if its important to him then i think it would matter. if he cant know then he might second guess the relationship

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Anonymous 5w

Personally it is grounds for separation, because the only reason not to tell me is because you know it would be a deal breaker for me. It's not lying, but people obfuscate for the same reason they lie, to hide ugly truths. Granted this is only if we were already in a relationship, random guy friends don't need to know your body count.

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Anonymous 5w

I mean technically lying by omission

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Anonymous 5w

Naw, I wouldn’t care, but I also probably wouldn’t ask in the first place.

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Anonymous 5w

Blame Bonnie blue

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 5w

Why are you answering questions for men?

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 5w

it's not high, but i have a lot ot sexual trauma that makes it difficult to explain my body count. technically i've only had consenting sex once.

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Anonymous replying to -> stanczyk 5w

why I understand that, it's more because i have sexual truama and it just not something i'm comfortable discussing early on into the relationship, but at the same time i don't have sex early on into the relationship either which is why i said i don't see why its relevant. i probably should've mentioned it

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

Any reasonable person knows it only counts if it’s consensual. Just say 1 bc that’s the truth

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

You shouldn't count non-consensual sex in body counts

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

Just say you have some sexual trauma but have had one consensual partner. Simple as that, you don’t need to share more than that he might ask about your trauma but you can say it’s too soon and that is valid!

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Anonymous replying to -> purp_diamond 5w

While you shouldn't count non consensual sex in body count, it may be wise to disclose regardless so that he doesn't unintentionally trigger any sort of trauma.

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