Anonymous sea_taco 9w

Freestyle is funny but he’s always calling women stupid for their questions, saying dumbass of the year award etc.

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Anonymous sea_taco 9w

The comments in the stomach pouch post. Some of them were like mean. I’ve personally countered a lot of men who don’t know a lot when it comes to female anatomy which isn’t unusual bc they don’t talk about it enough in schools

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Anonymous #2 9w

You cannot convince me that asking “do men feel sad after breaking up with their gfs” is a real question

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Anonymous sea_taco 9w

Or the post asking if you guys would date a fat girl and #8 said on principle no as part of their answer. I’m chubby and ik everyone has preferences which is totally ok! But when we genuinely need help and this feels like the only safe place for us to ask questions, to be shut down in ways like that hurt

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Anonymous sea_taco 9w

Don’t get me wrong, I’m sure there r ppl in ask women/girls (idk what it’s called I never go on it anymore bc if I have a questions I ft one of my friends and ask her if I’m crazy) who are just as bad.

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Anonymous #2 9w

Dumbass of the year award is funny tho

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Anonymous OP 9w

Tbh if you need a safe space I wouldn’t go here, I’d ask friends or something. Like you do instead of ask women

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Anonymous #2 9w

Most of the questions he says that is warranted tho.

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Anonymous #7 9w

And yet, (at least for me, and for a lot I’ve seen on here) even when we directly call that stuff out, we still answer the question (if it is one) fully and as helpfully as possible as if we believed it was genuine (either in case it was, to humor you as a show of good faith, or just as a mental exercise). Which is pretty good, all things considered imo

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Anonymous freestyle 9w

hey i’m not saying you’re wrong, but it’s not exactly helpful and prolly part of what op is talking about

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Anonymous OP 9w

Well did you want them to lie about the fat question? Or genuinely change as people to make the true answer better? Asking questions you dont want the answer to is kindof… not our fault (for what it’s worth, you’re prob in better shape than you think, most are, js) And yeah, the “ask women” version of that is dudes “asking” fetishes in (sort of) the form of a question. It’s bad enough they often won’t answer ANYTHING sex/dating related, even a clearly sincere question lol. Yeah, it’s an issue

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Anonymous OP 9w

Wait yeah why would you not expect genuine answers on questions like that ? you want them all to lie

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Anonymous pirosnake 9w

Sorry to burst your bubble but that right there is my handiwork

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Anonymous forget_me_not 9w

LMFAO

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Anonymous #2 9w

Fair ig. I comment shit like that bc if you ask an obv question like that and get that response, I’d hope that eventually it would force you to think about it yourself. I’m tryna promote asking yourself before consulting the internet

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Anonymous forget_me_not 9w

I intended to provide a recent example, was not trying to take credit.

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Anonymous pirosnake 9w

Nah I know, I’m just not a man and shouldn’t represent the group

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Anonymous forget_me_not 9w

You still comment from time to time so I’d count you as part of the community.

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Why would I lie abt something so specific😭it’s the reason I joined here and still get the trending notifications

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Anonymous #7 9w

With the fat thing, It’s not the answer you give that’s the problem, It’s the tone, sarcasm after. you could just say no and be done with it. You don’t have to say on principle because that’s just rude.

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Anonymous freestyle 9w

Ok obviously this one is not a great question but also I wasn’t referring to the “DUH” questions.

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Anonymous #6 9w

But what if they don’t have any guy friends? Or they don’t feel safe talking to the men in their family about it? Getting a bunch of answers helps us come to our own conclusion sometimes

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Anonymous #7 9w

We don’t want you guys to lie at all! But the some of the answers aren’t helpful. How would u feel if a woman said they wouldn’t date you on principle bc they don’t like part of your outward appearance?

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Anonymous #2 9w

Not at all! But the way in which you answer can be really hurtful and degrading at times. I’m not saying that we want you to lie or sugar coat things but being overtly blunt isn’t much better.

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Anonymous freestyle 9w

Which I think is great! More ppl need to do that and some of your comments are really funny! I think that sometimes in the heat of the moment when we’re feeling low or just want a straight up answer, we come here. But straight up doesn’t also have to be mean! I see the humor in your comments though!

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Anonymous #12 9w

Exactly!

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Anonymous #7 9w

And I think that calling ppl on their bs is also needed! But sometimes just asking for clarification if you’re thinking about answering the question could also be helpful. Just taking it as you read it may not be their true intention behind the question! If you think it’s just a dumb question you can answer in a way that doesn’t also make us feel like shit for even asking

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Anonymous pirosnake 9w

Most of the time yea I agree as well! I’m not trying to say that ALL of you guys aren’t answering in a helpful way and I’m really sorry if it’s coming off that way! But some of the guys in here answer in a way that makes us not want to ask for you help, that’s a huge purpose of this community!

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Anonymous #9 9w

I don’t think you’re ENTIRELY wrong by any means! If you see a question like that you could ignore it or be like if you have to ask you already know the answer. Sometimes that response is needed absolutely! But, most of us genuinely just want your help and don’t have people in our lives who will be honest without making us feel disgusting

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Anonymous #11 9w

See! This is a great example! Sometimes asking for clarification is helpful if you don’t know where they’ve come from in asking the question! Don’t take ALL of them as you read them! Except for the “DUH” answers, we really just want help

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Yes most ppl can control their weight, but there are so many other factors that play into it! The way in which some responded to that question was just, icky. And it’s not always unhealthy, obesity is absolutely unhealthy. But there r ppl who eat right, exercise, and take good care of themselves over all but have a LOT of difficulties actually losing the weight no matter what they do

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Anonymous freestyle 9w

You also have to take into account that not everyone will find that humorous. Plus online sarcasm and dry humor isn't always obvious, and i've never really seen you genuinely answer a question. I'm not saying what you're doing is wrong, but you can encourage people think about their questions in a kinder way. It literally cost nothing to be more considerate of people's feelings.

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Anonymous freestyle 9w

Just read some of the examples you gave: Men give blunt answers. This is how we actually talk to one another. We don’t butter stuff up. For example, the chubby question had multiple people saying yes and multiple saying fuck no. That’s called having a preference and you decided to highlight on the negative side even though there were people that said they do. The relationship question is kind of ridiculous. We are all humans and we all experience different types of emotions (unless -

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Anonymous #14 9w

they’re psychopaths). (Mb freestyle. Responded to the wrong comment) You will get a variety of answers and as this is an anonymous board, expect that most of the answers given are straightforward. Now I have 5 close girl friends that I let in my circle and they all tremendously appreciate my brutal honesty. If you get past the emotions and look at the response, we’re all just trying to help you become the best version of yourself.

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Anonymous #14 9w

You can be straightforward without being rude or sarcastic though is what I think OP is saying. An example would be "I'm personally not into chubby women, but everyone has their preferences." It's really not that hard

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Anonymous #13 9w

It’s given that it’s not their preference when they say they do or don’t. However, I agree with the sarcasm because there were some trash comments (dude talking about genetics).

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Anonymous freestyle 9w

the fact that this went unanswered is sending me rn😭

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Anonymous seeya_space_cowboy 9w

Aye man I jus comment here💀💀

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Anonymous freestyle 9w

hey you keep it real i respect that

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Anonymous OP 9w

“Safe space” ?? What do you think happens when you go into AskWomen and ask “would you date a short guy?” It does not get received well

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Anonymous #16 9w

most say yes

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Anonymous #13 9w

Yes!

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Anonymous #16 9w

I have already addressed this Hun! Specifically that ik a lot of women in AskWomen behave the same way and actually if I posted this same thing but towards women on that board, most of them would assume that I’m actually a guy which is not true.

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Anonymous #17 9w

This is actually a great point lol. Honestly I think that everyone in Ask Men and Ask Women could be nicer about it while getting their point across. It’s not a matter of “growing thicker skin”. Some ppl take this stuff really personally and you can’t blame them for that that’s just the way some people are

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Anonymous OP 9w

I would respond with “First, dating apps are terrible, look anywhere else. Second, it’s possible you aren’t as attractive as you thought you were. Take that with a pound of salt, I have no idea what you look like, but it’s possible.”

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Anonymous OP 9w

I would be… how did you put it? “Insensitive and degrading” in my response and, given the question, that would be 110% justified if that were a sincere question. Although, really, anyone who asks that probably just has a degradation kink and I’m now feeding it. But honestly? I can live with that. If that’s what she’s into, let that gal get her rocks off By the way, what is this a great example of? Questions we would answer rudely? True I guess, but it’s also a great example of WHY

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Anonymous OP 9w

I’d tell him to go to the gym, he’s clearly not as hot as he thinks he is

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Anonymous #4 9w

Why do yall believe that your hotness level is directly correlated to how much time you spend in the gym Not everyone has a muscle kink

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Anonymous #16 9w

Because it’s what we can control

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Anonymous #7 9w

Yeah exactly, you can’t change how tall u r but u can change how much muscle and fat u r

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Anonymous #4 9w

Have*

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