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I HATE it when men can’t take no for an answer. I try to let them down easy so I don’t hurt feelings but they’re just like “I just want to…” please just let me say no. Yah I lied and said I had a bf but how can a guy respond with “he’s not forever”?!?1
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Anonymous 5w

Some people are assholes

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Anonymous 5w

Well, nice of you to try to let people down gently, but if your way of doing that is to make excuses (instead of saying no), u run the risk he’ll believe you instead of inferring the no (which you don’t actually need an excuse for). A man’ll usually try to overcome an obstacle rather than give up IF he thinks it’s real/possible. Remember, he’s not taking no for an answer if you haven’t actually said it & u can always fall back on directness if subtlety doesn’t work

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Anonymous 5w

First of all, responding to you saying you have a boyfriend with “he’s not forever” is a very shitty response, no matter how you frame it, but second of all, a lot of us guys are dense when it comes to these things and take what you say at face value, rather than picking up on hints that you might not be interested. You can let people down easy without unnecessarily hurting feelings while still being clear and direct. For instance, you could say “I’m sorry, but that’s not something I want.”

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 5w

*disclaimer, I don’t know the deets of every time you’ve done this so ik this isn’t applicable to every case (such as where you’re directly turning someone down). But for example “I have a boyfriend” is an example of something that may be seen as an obstacle rather than a dealbreaker, since he doesn’t know for sure if you’re faithful

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 5w

I appreciate this explanation but I guess I just have a higher standard of how men should behave

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 5w

If anything, it’s actually spares feelings to be more direct, because then they have clarity and closure, rather than having to agonize over whether something you said was a hint that you aren’t interested or meant at face value.

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