That’s what it just kinda feels like to approach a woman for me anymore. I’m not a bad guy at all, in fact I think I’m too shy more than anything, but so many of my fellow dudes have ruined the chance of a classy, respectable introduction, that I just can’t help but kinda worry that I’m gonna come off as weird for going up to someone. Also, I’m not the most attractive guy ever, so it just sucks for me.
Here’s the kicker: because women are then more likely to be approached by men who don’t care if they’re uncomfortable, they’re more likely to publicly express negative feelings towards the idea of being approached by a man. Then, more of the men who care about womens’ comfort will take this as a sign to approach less often (if at all), while the men who don’t care are completely unbothered and continue being rude as usual. TLDR: This is a death spiral.