Ask Men on Yik Yak | i get a lot of attention from men out in public. if im dating a guy initially theyre ok with the attention but then they become upset with me even tho its out of my control. how am i supposed to avoid insecure men if they don’t show that side until later?

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Ask Men 6w

i get a lot of attention from men out in public. if im dating a guy initially theyre ok with the attention but then they become upset with me even tho its out of my control. how am i supposed to avoid insecure men if they don’t show that side until later?

Anonymous 6w

You can't

Anonymous 6w

Youre dating the jealous type

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Anonymous 5w

I’d say if it’s a consistent issue across multiple men you need to do some self reflection. It’s probably either you are picking jealous men consistently, which it can be hard to tell but there’s gotta be some tells you can spot after doing it a few times, or it’s the way you are interacting with the guys the approach. Like you might think you just being nice, but most guys don’t really care if you are being nice and want you to shut it down

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#2 6w

they don’t seem like it at the start. and i don’t think it’s really jealousy but more so insecurity? it’s not i have control over other guys staring at me or flirting and i definitely don’t do it back to them

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bobthebuilt 5w

well how could i recognize the signs early? the last guy i was seeing was very quick to show me off to his friends and family, and the guy before that wanted to post me and show me off in public because guys would dap him up and compliment him, so it seemed like he knew other men would find me attractive and he was okay with it. then later on he once got mad at me when a worker said “he you go, sweetheart” and i smiled and said “thank you”. he thought i liked the attention. i wasn’t flirting

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OP 5w

Well I’m ngl, if somebody reflectively close to our age called my gf sweetheart, she didn’t do anything to shut it down, I’d have a small crash out. Might be ur not shutting shit down you should be

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bobthebuilt 5w

1. it was a single interaction. not someone i knew or would see again, but literally a worker handing me my food. there’s not anything to “shut down” 2. he was at least twice my age, i was 18 and he looked 40+. and even if he were my age no advances were being made because he called me “sweetheart” 3. men who feel rejected don’t always handle it well. you’re sounding like the jealous men you’re talking about