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Ask Men 17w
i feel like most guys i speak to think i’m flirting with them (they ultimately make some sort of move), but im not actually flirting, just talking to them like i do my other friends. what should i do?
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Anonymous 17w

It just means ur mad attractive. Try mentioning another guy and they’ll back off

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Anonymous 17w

lowkey as a guy I have this problem too I ask a girl questions about her life because I like making genuine conversation and at the end she’s like can u take my number or can I have yours lol

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Anonymous 17w

Hmmm….I usually just assume the girl isn’t flirting, and I totally missed it with the two people out of hundreds that they were….one of them it was so obvious that she was. She made eye contact with me in the dining hall, and then I apologized because I was staring off into space, and then later she walked up to me with her number on a piece of paper. We FaceTimed 3 times and had a lot in common, but I told her I had feelings for someone else but wanted to still be friends, but she didn’t want

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Anonymous 17w

Try mentioning you have a bf

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Anonymous 17w

You know the pretty life

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Anonymous 17w

Mention you have a boyfriend or that youre gay to help hint you’re not interested

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Anonymous 17w

Become lesbian It is pride month after all

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 17w

but i don’t 😬 i’m chronically single lol

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17w

Just lie

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 17w

Me too, and usually I want to become friends with them, but they think I want more so then they back off….

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 17w

True

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 17w

that. And I had gotten somewhat attached to her (I get attached to people really easily even if it’s not romantically) and it was sad. Oh and we FaceTimed because I had covid.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 17w

Shit sorry I totally missed the point. Point is I didn’t realize she was flirting until the first FaceTime call when she called me cute, and even then I doubted it, but I said I was really excited because I thought she was but I wasn’t sure, and then she confirmed that she was 😭😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17w

Are these people already your friends that you hang out with, or are they people you see in class or something? If they’re already your friends you can tell them before it happens that you’re treating them the same way as your girl friends and you don’t want them to get the impression that you want to be more than friends. I usually just assume that the person isn’t flirting with me because it’s really hard to tell + I have autism.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 17w

totally new people but guy friends are the same way sadly. everyone ends up confessing their love at some point 🙄

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 17w

Yep I do the same

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17w

DMed you the long explanation of why (I’ve thought about this a lot), but short answer is society conditions us to not talk about emotions with other guys + be as affectionate with each other as women are with each other. So when they can trust you they get attached to you and then they fall for you.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 17w

Dude I wish I had this problem lol

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Anonymous replying to -> loosecannonn 17w

dude you’re a good lookin guy (better lookin than me imo) if you just talk to enough girls with genuine interest and ask questions and try to get to know them as people I’m sure it’ll happen to you too

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Anonymous replying to -> loosecannonn 17w

nah this shit is a curse for both genders 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 17w

Done that lol. No luck so far. I usually get the number, we chat for a bit and it dies out before it leads to a date or we get 1-2 dates in and that’s it

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 17w

i’m bisexual and still get no bitches 💔 my fellow women love me but not in that way 🥲

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17w

Girl I believe in you As a fellow bi, you got this boo

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Anonymous replying to -> loosecannonn 17w

I’d go on a date with you bro

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 17w

Sheee say lesss

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17w

Oh my people are here!!! Let’s have a party

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 17w

real!! hi guys

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