Ask Men on Yik Yak | To rephrase an earlier poll of mine what balance would be ideal in a lifelong relationship? (Whoever does more childcare does less paid work and the other partner contributes more financially)

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To rephrase an earlier poll of mine what balance would be ideal in a lifelong relationship? (Whoever does more childcare does less paid work and the other partner contributes more financially)

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Equal childcare and work

Woman does more childcare

Man does more childcare

Woman does all/most childcare

Man does all/most childcare

86 votes

Anonymous 1w

Also if you don’t want kids then just interpret childcare and housework

Anonymous 1w

In the scenarios where one parent is doing all the childcare, are they also working? Or is that their entire role

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Anonymous 1w

I would be a happy stay at home dad

Anonymous 1w

I mean I’m going to be a physician so ideally she wouldn’t need a job unless she desperately wanted one

Anonymous

#1 1w

If you chose the all/most option I think it’s reasonable to assume the other partner carries the bigger financial responsibility but let’s just say it’s up to you to decide if the other person is working but it’s very difficult to work when raising young kids

Anonymous

OP 1w

See I’m split, because on one hand I’d love to be the sole childcare/housework half of the couple without working, but at the same time, I know that’s not exactly the best dynamic for the child having an effectively absent parent (the working one)

Anonymous

#1 1w

I agree which is why I’d argue that let’s say in order to make enough to support the family one partner has to work 60 hours, rather than do that have one partner work part time so both can be involved

Anonymous

OP 1w

Right, like my fiancé is a pilot and once he goes commercial, he’ll be gone basically every other week. We’d be so financially set for kids, but he would never be around

Anonymous

#1 1w

For that situation though once he gets seniority he can choose the “good” flights that allow him to him to be home more often and it not like you need to work to balance out income