Almost everyone discourages settling, but many of us feel compelled to. Some of us expect very few relationships in our lives and need to try our best to lock something down because we might not get another chance, some of us find ourselves in relationships and legitimately don't think we can do better, some of us are plain impatient, there are many reasons. Everyone wants to be loved but nobody decides who loves them back.

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It’s a problem more so for men from culturally conservative backgrounds. Immigrants, children of immigrants, etc. Being able to support a family and then supporting one is a cultural point of pride and elevates your family’s status

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It’s hard to conceive the idea of “settling” when you have literally zero options

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I hear “don’t settle” a lot for both sides. Luckily most guys stay attractive with age, but it depends on your genetics. I often get told that I look 16 and I’m 24. My main worry is that the best women are getting married…

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I would say it depends on the definition of “settling” because some ppl have different ideas or misinterpret such as “marrying the first person you meet” versus “compromising, acknowledging as long as the partner checks off 7 or 8/10 criteria knowing that no one is absolutely perfect in every aspect.”

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It’s definitely a problem for guys as well, mostly encouraged by friends or family

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No usually most of the time men are the single ones as they old. A lot of dudes “settle” but I think this is a bad mindset to have in general because it’s mainly as most of the old single people are dudes and guys want to start a family, or at least most guys do

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idk i've never settled, but bc of it i was single for 4 yrs so it was slightly harder

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I chose not to settle, because I want to be with someone that I can’t picture myself with out. And I want her to look at me for more than just a paycheck. But at this rate, I’m afraid I will have to settle eventually.

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