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mr.stand_on_bidness

Why do you think there is more animosity for men who prefer a low body count than women who prefer an experienced man?

Anonymous 8w

Bc men who prefer a low body count are usually either seen as insecure and unrealistic while women who prefer experienced is just hypergamy.

Anonymous 8w

Because men are viewed as evil for having a preference whereas if a woman is looking for that everyone pats her on the back and tells her you go girl. As a male there are plenty of times I don’t tell people what kind of experience level I want out of a partner because then they call me an asshole or something along those lines

Anonymous 8w

Bc wanting a woman with a low body count is only valid if you yourself have a low body count otherwise it’s just slut shaming and a little weird (to women it is like I want someone more pure) and women don’t usually say I want a man with a low body count even though mine is high but it works both ways.

Anonymous 8w

i think it's the way a lot of men say it. Women say "i want someone experienced because Im experienced and don't want to teach someone/i feel safer/it's probably more stable/etc" and the vast majority of men saying they want a woman with a lower body count phrase it as "i want a woman who isn't ran through/a whore/a slut/used up" that's just what i've seen. each argument isn't mutually exclusive, there are ppl saying both in both good or bad ways, i think women have just been more tactful vs men

Anonymous 8w

Because only one of those groups of people actually exists

Anonymous

#1 8w

You can find anecdotes on the latter in any woman space but I can’t speak to the prevalence. The former is more prevalent among a majority of men I can say with confidence

Anonymous

freestyle 8w

*seen as hypergamy

Anonymous

mr.stand_on_bidness 8w

Interesting I’ve never heard of a woman wanting a man with a lot of experience. I only want him to not suck in bed lol.

Anonymous

freestyle 8w

Do you think insecurity and it being unrealistic is a fair critique? Also I’m not sure I understand the association in the last part

Anonymous

#1 8w

I’m sure the “lot of experience” part is gonna throw this convo off. What I really mean to convey is that women like you said want a guy to know what they’re doing. A virgin not going to talk you through it or know how best to touch a woman, that comes with experience. Not necessarily seeking men who have high body counts. There’s a difference in that alone because while not seeking a high body count, usually it’s not something that most women would be apprehensive of

Anonymous

#1 8w

If that better explains it

Anonymous

mr.stand_on_bidness 8w

Yeah I hear you, and I think that’s what my hangup about it was. I gotcha now

Anonymous

#3 8w

What do you want? And do you think that dynamic is something we caused ourselves or something different

Anonymous

mr.stand_on_bidness 8w

I have been with people on both sides of the coin. While the amount of previous partners is a concern of mine it’s not as high compared to other things that i look for. And honestly i think it was the 3rd wave feminist movement that caused this idea. While yes feminism is good and has caused some good things to happen, it gave women the idea that they can get with a lot of guys and that men won’t call them out in their shit.

Anonymous

#3 8w

They want the idea of having an experienced guy but they then question him of how he knows all this stuff and the answer that he gives they don’t like.

Anonymous

mr.stand_on_bidness 8w

No, because a lot of men prefer the low body count for religious reasons, and calling them insecure or unrealistic doesn’t account for that. I said hypergamy bc an experienced man is (typically) celebrated bc it shows he has attractive attributes that make him appeal to women. Ofc that’s not as prevalent anymore bc people realized that men can be hoes too, but a man with experience could also be an older, more financially stable man which is more attractive to a lot of women

Anonymous

freestyle 8w

This is a very general take tho and I think more and more women of our generation are not included in this group I’m referring to