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why do some men assume anyone who doesn’t wanna be a trad wife, or mom in general, wants to be a girl boss? like why do some men create this dichotomy where women are either wives or corporate slaves?
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Anonymous 5w

Cause they’re dumb, all there is really

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Anonymous 5w

They lack the ability to use common sense

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Anonymous 5w

like i tell men i don’t want to be a mom for a while & it’s immediately “oh, why do you care about your career so much” except my career isn’t the priority either? it’s enjoying my youth, exploring passions, traveling, etc.

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Anonymous 5w

What men are making this a thing?

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Anonymous 5w

Because feminism has spent the last two decades telling women “Don’t settle for just being a mom, be a girlboss!”

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

i guess i’m just kinda saddened that when i say i don’t want kids right now i get a lecture about how “the most fulfilling thing a woman can do is become a mom, not sit in a boardroom meeting” when in actuality, being a mom & sitting in a boardroom are BOTH on my “not my passion” list at the moment. nor am i “choosing money over family” because i don’t want kids. it’s just a rude assumption.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 5w

the ones i’m meeting in Nebraska! 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

Oooo okay, come to NY then

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 5w

i also do sometimes see this sort of straw man online because it helps to promote an idea that women are more happy at home when the only option for job is “sad office lady”

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

Ugh I know who you’re talking about now

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 5w

that’s a very slim fraction of what feminism is. feminism, on one hand, did allow women to work. but it didn’t explicitly tell women “you need to go be sad in a corporate high-rise now” men invented that part to make financial independence or aspirations outside of motherhood seem miserable. my dreams will not make me miserable, and nor are they about being a “girl boss”

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 5w

imagine if a man told me he had passions outside of kids & my immediate instinct was to diminish his passions & assume he meant his passion was working in finance or some shit. or even if his passion was starting a business & then i dismissed the significance of that. idk, i just think it’s weird as hell.

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