Ask Men on Yik Yak | do men really not like women who are driven and ambitious? I have had three guys in a row tell me we wouldn’t be a good match due to the fact I am, and I quote “too serious and ambitious” and “you just seem to be really focused on your one goal”.

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Ask Men 8w

do men really not like women who are driven and ambitious? I have had three guys in a row tell me we wouldn’t be a good match due to the fact I am, and I quote “too serious and ambitious” and “you just seem to be really focused on your one goal”.

Anonymous 8w

I literally won’t date a girl who isn’t driven. I think the idea that as a man you’re supposed to like women who just wanna be your dainty little housewife is ridiculous. Tell me your goals. Tell me what drives you. What makes you wake up in the morning. What keeps you up at night.

Anonymous 8w

Yeah like what who wants to date a loser w no drive or passion

Anonymous 8w

Goal driven is great! The one way it really doesn’t work for me is if she’s so focused on her goals that she neglects the relationship. My ex is a very hardworking woman, but she basically never had actual time to put much effort into us and I felt like I was the only one putting in effort to actually do things together

Anonymous 8w

Girlll 💅 who are you hanging out with?!

Anonymous 7w

It depends what your “one goal” is. If you only seem to care about one thing, and that one thing is not the thing they’re looking for from a relationship, then they’re probably right and you wouldn’t be a great match. Doesn’t mean there isn’t a guy out there who would be, but it’s not them.

Anonymous 8w

If your with a man who doesn’t think that drive is attractive they are a loser and you should find other people to hang around

Anonymous

#1 8w

This.

Anonymous

#2 8w

BECAUSE THATS WHAT MAKES YOU A HUMAN BEING RAHHH!!! WE’RE ALL HERE BECAUSE WE HAVE DREAMS AND GOALS!!! YOUR GOAL SHOULD NOT BE TO SERVE A MAN!!!

Anonymous

#6 7w

My goal is financial stability and independence, but my aim is to become a lawyer or criminal profiler, both of which I dedicate most of my time and energy to. But as a partner I make time for weekly or biweekly dates, personalized homemade gifts for my partner, etc.

Anonymous

#4 7w

I do my best to make time for weekly or biweekly dates, personalized homemade gifts, and cooking/baking for my partner, so I try to find a balance

Anonymous

OP 7w

So what do you want or expect in return from a partner?

Anonymous

#6 7w

I would like my partner to have something they are passionate about, and make a conscious effort towards the relationship as well. I know everyone will have different passions and different ways in which effort manifests, so I am pretty vague with expectations in my own mind.

Anonymous

OP 6w

Okay, well this is the reason most guys think you’re not compatible with them. Most guys want relationships because they get fulfillment from feeling needed, and would like to one day have a family. Your main goal is to focus on your career and being in a position to not need anyone, and your expectation is that they have something else they feel more passionately about than you.

Anonymous

OP 6w

Lowkey it sounds like your ideal relationship would essentially just be a hobby you’d like to have with someone else on the side of the more important things you want to accomplish and would want your partner to accomplish, and yeah that’s not what most guys want.