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Ask Men 13w
Once the shyness goes away and I become myself (sometimes loud, talks a lot sometimes, laugh a lot, am straight forward, etc) guys ghost me. What am I doing wrong? Bc being myself sure isnt working😞💀
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Anonymous 13w

Stay yourself and take them leaving as a sign they aren’t for you I’ve been in the sort where you have to pretend to be someone else and it’s just never worth it

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Anonymous 13w

U sound fun to me 🤷‍♂️

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Anonymous 13w

My guess is you're drawing in the guys who like shy and calm personalities and then they feel blindsided when you switch up on them. Everyone expects some shyness, but if the difference is that severe between your shy self and your normal self then it might be something worth mentioning early on for transparency.

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Anonymous 13w

It’s not that being yourself isn’t working, it’s that you haven’t found someone that finds you being yourself attractive

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 13w

I hear you, it’s not a big difference tho that’s why i don’t understand why when I’m super quiet they’re attracted to me and then I open my mouth and then they’re just suddenly not interested and it’s not even like I’m saying op shit but yeah idk ig im not relationship material in their eyes …

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 13w

Yeah fuck that faking shit imma always be real af

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 13w

That’s very depressing

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 13w

I thought I sound/am fun too :/

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 13w

It also could just be that the more you get to know each other that the guy might not be attracted to your personality or might not think you two are compatible after learning what you believe or like or think is

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 13w

Well I will say his last gf was toxic and he put up with that alot so maybe he likes that and doesn’t like that I’m not toxic, idk that’s the only thing I could think of cuz I don’t think it’s the personality cuz if he thought it was shit why did he hangout with me so much and bond with me on everything yk

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 13w

Yeah I mean I’m going thru same thing with a girl rn😭 I don’t understand it

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