Ask Men on Yik Yak | I don't understand why so many men catch feelings for their friends? It's one thing to think someone is attractive and cool but if you are just letting it turn into deep feelings that's like an obsession imo

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Ask Men 6w

I don't understand why so many men catch feelings for their friends? It's one thing to think someone is attractive and cool but if you are just letting it turn into deep feelings that's like an obsession imo

Anonymous 6w

You act like ppl can control your feelings. It is only obsessive if you keep pursuing them after you’ve been told your feelings don’t reciprocate. Men are just more likely to admit their crush on their friends whereas women will stuff in down. It happens on both sides and men are just more likely to fall for their friends.

Anonymous 6w

Women when they find out getting to know someone can cause feelings 😱😱😱🤯🤯

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Anonymous 6w

Ok, so this is 100% Instagram knowledge, but short ChatGPT research kind of confirmed it. Relationship/attractiveness hormones for girls usually hit during first few weeks when they are meeting somebody and guys it can take longer and they will hit with like a certain comfortability/vulnerability level. Part of that is societal and guys being trained to not be very vulnerable among many other social and biological factors, same for women as well

Anonymous 6w

He’s not your friend he’s waiting on his chance

Anonymous

#1 6w

i think you if you find yourself repeatedly falling for your friends you don't know the differences between platonic and romantic attraction

Anonymous

#2 6w

yeah so im engaged

Anonymous

#3 6w

There’s a difference between a friend and a love interest. If every friend you make turns into one I think you just lack the ability to think women and men can’t be friends without either of them catching feelings atp

Anonymous

#4 6w

When did I say every friend turns into a love interest?

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Anonymous

OP 6w

If it’s repetitive, they probably do know the difference, but the standards for romantic attraction are so low that it doesn’t take a lot to hop from one to the other. But the way you phrased it made it seem like you were invalidating their sentiments.

Anonymous

OP 6w

Congrats to you (really) but that irrelevant to him. He’ll even wait years

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Anonymous

bobthebuilt 6w

This results in girls are interested in guys for a short time frame when they meet and then guys don’t gain interest until later when they are more vulnerable. Which like leads to the “friendzone” pipeline most guys get. That’s also why when guys first meet a girl you’ll hear all that like “idk if I like her” and “I’m not sure if I like her” typa stuff. And then he’ll like her a month later when she’s already moved on

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bobthebuilt 6w

Also again, I am by no means a psychologist, and this is smth I heard on insta, and a few brief ChatGPT questions generally agreed with the general concepts although it isn’t great at linking the actual facts to the societal effects. If anybody else has better info on this I’d be interested to hear, but I’m pretty sure this is fairly accurate

Anonymous

#3 5w

Getting to know your friend is different than a love interest. This shouldn’t be happening unless you can’t understand the distance and can’t make a platonic friendship

Anonymous

#2 5w

that's sad. he needs to move on

Anonymous

OP 5w

Set him free and properly reject him

Anonymous

bobthebuilt 5w

No offense to you but i don't really trust CHAT GPT as a source, especially when it comes to things psychology/human sciences realted, i rather hear from humans lol