Anonymous #1 3w

Shy or nervous around you it’s a massive green flag. It means he genuinely likes you and is worried about screwing something up. Also a good strategy is to weed through guys by not having sex. Somebody who wants something serious is more likely to want to only have sex once they know that they really like you or love you. If a guy wants sex within the first month then I’d say he’s almost definitely only dating you because of that. The longer you wait the more likely it is that he’s dating you

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Anonymous #1 3w

Because he genuinely likes you rather than viewing you only for sex. Another tip would be to look at all the guys you use to be with that ended up only wanting hookups and look at the similarities with them and avoid men with those traits. Finally the last tip I think I can provide is to make the first move rather than waiting for a guy to make a move on you. Most men don’t approach their crushes and the men who do approach women are often only doing it for sex. If you make the first move you

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Anonymous #1 3w

Have better odds of finding guy that won’t solely view you for sex

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Anonymous #1 3w

Sorry for all the rambling but this isn’t my first rodeo. We get a lot of posts asking this on here and this is a compile of the general info along with personal experience

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Anonymous #1 3w

i really appreciate this advice most of the guys i meet are ones that come up to me so i’ve decided to stop accepting cold approached. i could end up potentially rejecting someone good but in my experience its always shallow. the only thing i don’t agree with is cold approaching myself. i would ideally be friends with a guy before deciding im interested, but i can’t seem to make guy friends. they’re either afraid of me, not interested in being my friend, or assume i want to date them right away

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Anonymous OP 3w

i should add i’ve cold approached in the past, but i never end up liking their personality and i guess sometimes they assume because i expressed interest first id be okay with having sex and what not, which again, isn’t really my thing.

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Anonymous OP 3w

Friends to lovers is definitely the best way to get a relationship (from my experience) but it’s pretty lengthy and unpredictable. Sadly yeah I competently get what you’re talking about when it comes to making friends about men misinterpreting your intentions or being afraid or not being interested. A solution to this could be joining a club or finding a guy with a similar hobby and talk to him about it. For example I’m a pretty quiet guy but if you start talking to me about chess I would

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Anonymous #1 3w

Talk to you all day long and likely be happy to be friends especially if you would play with me. I think a lot of it just comes down to finding a similar passion with a guy and becoming friends by talking about that passion or doing whatever it is

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Anonymous #1 3w

i do actually want to join chess club this year lol. i tend to have pretty male dominated interests so even not thinking about dating i’ve been in clubs and talked to guys, it’s just it does usually result in an alienating feeling. i guess i can’t expect for everyone to be my friend or more, but i do wish guys were better at being friends with girls. ill still try to be open and see what happens this year. thanks !

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Anonymous OP 3w

I understand that. People typically stick with those similar to them which in your case is men will be with men and women will be with women. Here’s the thing though I know a ton of guys that love women like you. We absolutely love it when women appreciate the same hobbies as us. Just show the guys how cool you are and advocate for yourself. Please keep in mind though that some guys take a while to open up. Men are more introverted than women and in groups like a chess club you have a ton of

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Anonymous #1 3w

Introverts and I know I’m dissing my own kind when I say this but they probably haven’t even talked to a woman in a year. Give them time and slowly chip away at them and I’m sure you’ll make some great friends

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Anonymous #1 3w

yeah the dis is valid. i get people being shy because i am too, but i dont like being put on a pedestal or being treated like IM not human too yk? it’s definitely a lot hate relationship being around guys that have the same interests as me. the good part is, even if i don’t make new friends im still doing something i enjoy, so i don’t really lose anything either

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Anonymous #2 2w

i used to think this would work but i think people see me as someone really innocent or like a “good girl”, so even if i don’t say anything that would make it seem like im looking for something serious, they usually make that assumption anyway

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Anonymous OP 2w

Ok. In that case make it clear that you’re looking for someone to marry and don’t engage in sexual activity prior to marriage. This will def weed out those looking for something casual

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