Anonymous #1 5w

I don’t think so. People do it all the time

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Anonymous #3 5w

Not really

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Anonymous OP 5w

I mean it could definitely happen if a guy is only kind of interested in you but not intent on acting on it. If a guy is thoroughly into you they can only push it down for so long. It’s far easier to push down negative emotions than positive ones.

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Anonymous #4 5w

Anyway, what even made you come up with this? Did he actually tell you “I don’t have feelings for you”? Or are you just discouraged by the way he’s expressing them or the fact he hasn’t made a move? Bc in the latter two cases, it’d be entirely possible he DOES have feelings for you Have you asked him point blank?

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Anonymous #4 5w

No none of that lol he just said some stuff or did some things that made me think it

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Anonymous OP 5w

Oh. Then I just wasted a lot of breath and sarcasm. Sorry. The answer is the simple one: you made this problem up. You don’t need to justify his rejecting you when he hasn’t even done so. Take ur meds and talk to that man (in that order plz for both ur sakes🙏)

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Anonymous #4 5w

Why are you assuming things? I’m literally just wondering how guys act when they catch feelings bc he acted a little different. He never “rejected” me like huh

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Anonymous #4 5w

We’ve been fwb for a couple months and he acted a bit different than his usual self

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Anonymous OP 5w

Was assuming things bc I don’t have context that would make ur question (kind of) make enough sense to answer. Whatever you were wondering, what you asked abt was when a guy suppresses his feelings due to failed relationships, which is not something that rlly happens. Ofc I was gonna be curious how you came up with the idea. The fact it SOUNDS like a very creative cope suggested either youd been rejected or thought you had. Still not sure why else youd want to think hes suppressing his feelings

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Anonymous #4 5w

Bc I’m sure how guys think. If you’re willing to hear the story and give advice, I’m down. I had feelings for him before, we were still fwb and I told him this, but nothing happened and we kinda stopped talking in June and he started acting different. You came up with some weird thing suggesting my emotions, which I’m not “coping” I’m just curious bc I’m confused. And yes-people do that

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Anonymous OP 5w

Ahh, that is helpful. That could be any one of a billion things. Many of which don’t even involve u. If ur concerned about him as a friend, ask him how he is or what’s going on in his life. Or (gonna go out on another limb here), just tell him point blank that if he ever caught feelings for you, he should feel free to admit it & you’d consider dating him. If he’s afraid to act, it’s bc of THIS relationship, not past ones. If that’s a problem, u can help by reassuring him he won’t jeopardize it

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Anonymous #1 5w

Yeah I’m not sure. I just don’t know much about guys in general. Yall are good at hiding how u really feel lol

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Anonymous #4 5w

He was acting different towards me, like trying to get to talk to me by saying anythign after we didn’t really talk as much (I was busy w work). We’ve already had a talk. And how would you know that? Like you’re so sure. If that’s true idc but you don’t even know the whole situation

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Anonymous OP 5w

I know that bc men are, by and large, rational creatures in relationships. We act predictably in situations with a clear right move, & unpredictably when taking risks. 99% of the time our actions are explained by a discernible cause-and-effect connection to what we want (& what we don’t). For instance: you know he values the FWB thing, right? You DON’T know whether he wants to date you. If he DOES, then why not make a move? Either: a) The ghosts of girlfriends past told him he could hit/go bac

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Anonymous #4 5w

Well I don’t 😂 this is weird

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Anonymous #4 5w

k in time & fix one of those relationships/otherwise offered him something of value to forgo a chance with you. Or b) He’s got a good thing going with you and doesn’t want to ruin it by making it serious, or scare you off. See? Since b) is metaphysically possible, & makes sense, it’s FAR more likely. Ofc, it’s also possible he just doesnt WANT more with you, but if somethings holding him back, it’s his concerns about now & the future; only in the future can you get what you want

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Anonymous #4 5w

Well now we’re making sense. Why didn’t you say that before instead of accusing me of taking my meds lol (which I don’t taken any )

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Anonymous OP 5w

It’s only weird that it’s not intuitive lol. You don’t what? You don’t know that he values your fwb thing? Then why does he keep having sex with you? And actively trying to get your attention to start conversations? See what I mean? You can tell what a man wants if he’s doing what makes sense to get it

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Anonymous #4 5w

I haven’t dated barely at all how am I supposed to know ? I never said he didn’t value the fwb thing bc he does lol

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Anonymous OP 5w

Sorry, THAT one was in reply to your comment like 3 up. I wasnt sure what u meant by “I don’t” & I accused you of NOT taking your meds (bc “held back by past relationships” problem seemed/seems very out of nowhere). ‘Fraid I cant apologize for that comment bc I stand by it lol. If theres one crucial tip u should know going into your 1st relationship; don’t get into the habit of inventing new problems out of air. Imaginary problems have a nasty habit of becoming real ones. (& good luck! 🍀🥂)

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Anonymous #4 5w

There’s no imaginary problems bc you don’t the full story but you’re acting like you do. He told me personally his last relationship was toxic so he was hesitant about them. Like r u dumb

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Anonymous OP 5w

Again, guys will hide negative reactions. I’ve never known a guy who was any good at hiding the fact that he had a positive opinion of someone

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