Anonymous OP 5w

As a girl I agree and I’m glad someone else said this bc I didn’t think other girls felt this way too 😂

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Anonymous #1 5w

not really, I mean of course there are their limits but this is more so for the guys that would be considered average or “mid” looking I promise u it happens way more then you would think

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Anonymous #2 5w

girl yes so many of us!! ur not alone😔 we just get shamed into thinking it’s weird and no one ever talks about it so we tend to keep it to ourselves

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Anonymous OP 5w

I am average and I can tell you with confidence nobody’s ever had a crush on me lmao. If you’re a mid guy you really might as well give up on love.

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Anonymous #1 5w

l it’s like a random temporary obsession. sometimes it’s the smallest thing — smelling good, a certain movement, a voice, or something you say — and suddenly it feels hot, even though you’re not trying to be. honestly happens to me more with average guys than the ones i find super attractive. it’s that weird “idk why i like him but i do” feeling. our imaginations are wild… you roll up your sleeves and we’re already picturing you 10 times hotter and in a full Magic Mike routine.

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Anonymous #4 5w

no it’s different bc it’s not a “i feel like fucking” it’s like maladaptive daydreaming about it bc u find them attractive , it’s litterally so hard to explain but thr girls that get it get it😔

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Anonymous #5 5w

As a guy it’s probably true considering how many genuinely ugly guys I’ve seen in committed relationships. And honestly for a long time I felt like nobody was into me (or more specifically nobody that I would be attracted to was into me) but once I put forth a bit of effort I was pleasantly surprised by who I could pull, so you never know.

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Anonymous #6 5w

I mean I get that and have seen those types of relationships before, but I just don’t think I have whatever it is they have that’s attractive to women despite their “ugly” looks, so I’m still going to press x to doubt .

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Anonymous OP 5w

Yes my friends would judge me for having small crushes like these and more when its a like an average guy.. they dont get it but the way a guy looks when he smiles or laughs sometimes does it for me 😭 then im imagining making out w him and other nsfw thoughts lol

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Anonymous #5 5w

but see that’s the issue. Women find so many casual things attractive for example, a guy reversing his car? got. rolling up his sleeves? hot. accidentally making a moan/groan sound? hot. it’s subtle things that randomly makes a girl perk up, not just the look aspect. I also agree with this being the reason so many women date uglier then men do

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Anonymous #2 5w

bruh I hope men see this and start believing me lol😔 everyone thinks i’m lying but they don’t get our mindsets

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Anonymous #3 5w

No fr bc why would manspreading make me want to be in a relationship w a guy, that’s literally just inconsiderate 😭

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Anonymous OP 5w

as a girl this is a fact fr, i’ve had moments where any guy who was wearing baggy sweats and a hoodie was so hot no matter what they looked like

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Anonymous #7 5w

it’s not about wanting to pursue a relationship, it’s just the face that we take in someone’s attractiveness and turn it into a little like teen crush. The mindset is different for guys vs girls so i don’t think it will make sense to u guys but if u look at the girls in the comments u can kinda see more of what we are talking about

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Anonymous OP 5w

*fact

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Anonymous #8 5w

yea it’s looking like most these guys in here wanna grieve and put themselves down instead of understanding that guys spectrum of attractive things vs girls will always be different😭 like i’m TRYING to tell them it goes way beyond being and lots of it is mental attraction on our part but no one’s listening😔

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Anonymous OP 5w

I am a girl and I’m telling you that would never make me have a crush on a guy.. if he was attractive, sure, but that action alone would never

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Anonymous #5 5w

You certainly won’t be attractive with that attitude

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Anonymous #7 5w

you’re kinda missing what i’m saying — it’s not the action alone that’s attractive. it’s that sometimes a super simple, random thing will just flip a switch and make an “average” guy suddenly seem way hotter in that moment. it’s not about manspreading being universally hot, that was just my example of a time it randomly happened to me. it wasn’t the manspread that made me crush it was just when i notice there was a random switch in my mind

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Anonymous #5 5w

Women aren’t a monolith and honestly I think the takeaway from this post should simply be that people tend doubt their attractiveness or potential to be attractive, both men and women. I wouldn’t even worry about the rolling up your sleeves and whatnot, if you are true to yourself and treat people well things will come. It’s not the same for everyone, it might not happen as soon as you like, but it will

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Anonymous #6 5w

yea I’m happy your kind of understanding what i’m saying, i’m just trying to give examples on how simple non sexual actions can turn a flip for us and give us a fixation that guys tend to miss or never know bc there’s always so much self doubt. my main point was just trying to point out that sometimes “average guys” are found attractive from doing the simple things they wouldn’t think twice of, yet girls they might not think they ever have a chance with are secretly going feral for them

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Anonymous #1 5w

I’m average and plenty of girls have had crushes on me

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Anonymous #9 5w

Yes!! we don’t always need a 10/10 hunk😔 that’s why a lot of girls follow the “i like him a lil ugly rule”. It’s also a trend among like girl social media to talk about guys being too attractive that they start becoming ugly.

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Anonymous purp_diamond 5w

don’t doubt yourself🫡 u don’t have to be conventially attractive to still be the hottest person in our eyes

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Anonymous #15 5w

I’ve never really done this with people I find conventionally attractive — or at least not in the same way I do with people who aren’t. there are limits, of course, but I think guys stereotype what we find attractive on the same scale of what men deem as attractive for women, which is simply not on the same scale

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Anonymous #15 5w

read some of the comments in here from girls and u will get it🙏

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Anonymous #16 5w

Thank you!! Like I wouldn’t lie about this to make men feel better lol, i’m saying it bc it’s so true and honestly why so many guys could pull outside of there “level” if they actually tried

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Anonymous OP 5w

yeah i get it, but if we’re not *aware* of people even acknowledging us, obviously it’s not exactly believable when suddenly someone says the opposite

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Anonymous OP 5w

well wonder where I got that idea from

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Anonymous OP 5w

I’m not saying there aren’t things that suddenly make men more attractive, just manspreading isn’t one of them (it’s fine if it is to you, really not that big a deal at the end of the day)

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Anonymous #7 5w

it was a example of how weird and random we can find something attractive oven if it’s something as non sexual/ normal as a manspread..

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Anonymous #13 5w

We get it. You get the ick if a man does anything. Hell you even get the ick if men do nothing.

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Anonymous #1 5w

we get the ick from bad and god complex behavior… which is what half of these comments are giving. half these comments are litterally making me think men don’t like real women and just the idea of them

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Anonymous #18 5w

yes I agree, that’s why i made this post🙃 i’m not really sure why it turned into what it did at the bottom but I just wanted to let men know it’s not always a look issue and sometimes it’s just a women’s self doubt/ insecurity that stops us from approaching

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Anonymous OP 5w

Half of these comments are calling you on your shit. There’s nothing wrong with having preferences it’s when you pretend not to is when there’s an issue.

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Anonymous #1 5w

no there saying that i’m lying to men which makes no fucking sense bc what do I gain from lying? this was a positive post and now it’s about women hating men??? like where tf did that come from. this post has nothing to do with women approaching men or how men behave towards women. it’s about the fact that men think they need to look like a model when in fact the most simple things make us swoon/ development fixations. this is dead ass why i hate posting in this community

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Anonymous #19 5w

It’s not true don’t let them convince you💀

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Anonymous #1 5w

right…. bc I would take the time out of my day to lie to a bunch of men and strangers about something i experience all the time just to paint a false narrative that benefits me in no way💀 get. a. JOB🙏

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Anonymous #19 5w

i’m hoping one day us women can stop being embarrassed and overthinking approaching men🙏🙏 works out better for all of us lol. but despite what the other comments say I wouldn’t lie🙃

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Anonymous #1 5w

Dawg just say you’re ugly atp bc why are you so hell bent on proving her wrong 😭 plenty of women are highly attracted to men, in fact I see so many gorgeous women with absolutely chopped men whereas most men won’t give a beautiful woman a chance bc she has a lazy eye or some shit like that

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Anonymous #19 5w

I think a lot of us overthink and get embarrassed abt it that’s our problem ! haha

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Anonymous OP 5w

You have quite literally no clue at all how exhausting it gets as an average looking guy to have your existence ignored your entire fucking life only for jackoffs on the Internet to pretend you’re the cream of the crop. Guess what. We’re not. The lies seriously need to stop. As a man you ***DO*** need to look like a model to even remotely ***CONSIDER*** a relationship with the opposite gender.

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Anonymous #1 5w

it’s not a male female thing tho. it’s a conventiallg attractive vs non conventionally attractive. I as a women was made fun of, ignored, or blatantly called ugly until I lost weight and fit into society more look wise. I do not have 10/10 gugs approaching me on a daily just how men don’t have 10/10 girls. it’s not a gender war it’s a spectrum.

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Anonymous #1 5w

I’m 5’7 and had a relationship with a woman taller than me I promise you’re just that chopped twin ✌️

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Anonymous #19 5w

why do they always ignore this part. name 5 men you’ve seen date a ugly women. I can’t, I however can scroll through my insta feed and immediately spot dozens of beautiful women with “average guys”

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Anonymous OP 5w

I have

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Anonymous #14 5w

then your a dime a dozen🫡

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Anonymous #19 5w

What does this have to do with anything I said💀

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Anonymous OP 5w

You as well this has nothing to do with what I said, matter of fact it actually supports what I said

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Anonymous #1 5w

but it doesn’t. your saying WOMEN treat men bad when they aren’t attractive when in reality it’s EVERYONE treats ppl bad when they aren’t conventionally attractive. Saying no girl has found an average joe attractive is dense and stupid. Maybe u should date a man and that will solve all your issues

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Anonymous #1 5w

you don’t have to look like a model to have a relationship. read idiot

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Anonymous OP 5w

Except I’m not gay? Anyways the rest of your statement is just factually not true. As a woman unless you have severe physical disabilities or something you can download a dating app and have like 10 options in a half hour no matter how you look. Meanwhile as a man you need to be a 10/10 just to get a couple options.

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Anonymous #19 5w

Not as a woman you don’t

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Anonymous #1 5w

blame men for being horny fucks not women for having standards 😭

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Anonymous #1 5w

maybe if men didn’t give it up for the salary of an Indonesian sweatshop worker dating apps wouldn’t be so one sided

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Anonymous #19 5w

Read above, I already said I don’t have an issue with women having standards even if they’re less than realistic. It’s only an issue when they pretend not to have standards.

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Anonymous #1 5w

what’s the benefit to her lying gng

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Anonymous #1 5w

i’m sorry… there’s no way your a MAN speaking on the average women’s experience. i’ve never had 10 fucking options does this look like disney?? u are confusing the amount of guys down to fuck vs the ones down to be in a actual relationship. yea if I offered to get a mans dick wet i’d have options, not for a normal relationship😃

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Anonymous OP 5w

^^^^

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Anonymous OP 5w

Download a dating app right now and run that shit for a day and tell me how many matches you get

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Anonymous #19 5w

bruh exactly they confuse men wanting to get their dick wet which actual valued attraction… “as a women you have 10 options” If i had would have no issues in life EVER lmao,

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Anonymous #1 5w

I have😃 and guess what it’s like maybe 3 and what do they all want? sex. that’s not attraction or wanted attention. that’s the lust of lucking for anything quick to put your dick in.

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Anonymous #1 5w

First day I downloaded hinge I got 5 matches and 2 likes, it’s just u broski

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Anonymous OP 5w

Even then do you have any clue at all how hard it would be to get 3 matches as an average guy?

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Anonymous #19 5w

Idk how it isn’t clear to you yet that you’re definitely not an average guy lmfao

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Anonymous #1 5w

Dawg im hella average

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Anonymous #19 5w

Is this satire

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Anonymous #1 5w

yes 😭 it’s not me but I promise you I am very average, probably a 7.5 if I actually put like a ton of effort into my appearance

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If you get 0 in a month then ur chopped lmfao

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Anonymous #1 5w

now name how many women you know that are dating men that look like that vs average looking guys. I’ll wait

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Anonymous #19 5w

Boss I promise you you’re not💀

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Anonymous OP 5w

Hon Ive talked to like 50 girls at least at my school do you know how many of them are dating men under an 8/10? Not a single one.

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Anonymous #1 5w

okay and if u have to blame women for not getting bitches on your dick then your chopped💙

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Anonymous OP 5w

Again I’m not blaming women for anything other than gaslighting

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Anonymous OP 5w

I know why women generally aren’t interested in me and it’s not something I can do anything about so I’m over allat

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Anonymous #1 5w

your such a fucking liar lmao💀ur issue is looking at popular/ attractive couples.

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Anonymous OP 5w

Nah not really popular couples can do their thing

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Anonymous #1 5w

i also know why and i can tell u right now it’s goes beyond your face.

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Anonymous #1 5w

maybe your problem is calling girls “Hon”

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Anonymous OP 5w

No actually it doesn’t go a single nanometer beyond my face/flesh but I can see why you’d think it does

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Anonymous #19 5w

Such a nonissue lmao

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Anonymous #1 5w

yea bc your a dick and talking to me like i’m 5.

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Anonymous OP 5w

I’m a dick for telling you that you’re wrong?

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Anonymous #1 5w

“Wrong” for having an opinion and detailing her firsthand experience as a woman 🥀 brutal.

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Anonymous #19 5w

Dawg we already established you’re not an average guy, she isn’t talking about you and neither am I💀

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Anonymous #1 5w

you realize the photo they used… was of a popular influencer right💀💀💀

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Anonymous OP 5w

Yes we established it other ways

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Anonymous #1 5w

have you considered the fact that you might in fact not be average? you may in fact be below average and this self deprecating attitude doesn’t help your chances at all either.

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Anonymous #1 5w

your a dick for talking down to me then acting like being a women gives you a automatic unlimited pass when in reality you’re standards for us go way past our for you. we can’t be too tall, fat, short, skinny, curvy, flat, natural, cakey, etc. Yet we ask for a guy taller then us and all hell breaks loose

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Anonymous #19 5w

My chances are sub-zero with or without the attitude I’ve come to realize

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Anonymous #1 5w

there sub zero bc your not average your fucking ugly. average isn’t the most attractive ppl vs everyone else. average is I’m not ugly but i’m not conventionally attractive. If u can’t find a match on a dating app that takes in looks AND asks u to share your personality then yea u got no shot bc both are ugly as fuck

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Anonymous OP 5w

That is literally the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard lmfao. The only one of those attributes that MIGHT hinder your chances in dating is height but only if it’s 6’0+ and even then it’s not a dealbreaker. Everything else is a complete nonissue. Also you don’t ask for a guy “taller than you” you ask for a guy who’s 6’0+ which is such a small minority of the male population.

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Anonymous OP 5w

You’re right, I am fucking ugly. Average = fucking ugly to modern women. Thank you for conceding my point.

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Anonymous #1 5w

i’ve never asked for a 6’0 guy. I ask for a guy taller than me. in 5’4. and if you think non of those matter for women then you are living in ignorance. I don’t see guys pumping there body with chemicals/ sawing off there bone to fit into a beauty standard that changes for women every year, vs for men that litterally changes nothing expect for style💀

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Anonymous #1 5w

no average means doesn’t look like quazzi moto while also not looking like a replica of a grease god. not hard to fall between the 2 as MOST YHE FUCKING POPULATION does.

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Anonymous #1 5w

do u know how many women litterally won’t show their friends a “this is him” photo bc they aren’t conventionally attractive? if it’s so easy for women to pull 10/10 men then why don’t u see us with them? why are we still asking for the bare minimum of “Id fall for a guy if he didn’t treat me like shit.” that’s litterally the standard at this point

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Anonymous OP 5w

You don’t? I do. I see men shoot up tren and all sorts of other performance enhancing drugs to meet the bare minimum requirements. I see men sawing their femurs in half and getting expansion devices implanted in their bones so they can grow taller to meet that magical 6’0 figure I mentioned earlier. Meanwhile women are doing all that for literally zero reason. Men will literally date anything they can get.

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Anonymous #1 5w

Women make up about 80 to 85% of all plastic surgery patients in the world. Men make up 10% to 15% for every 9 average women it’s 1 man. none of that is as common as plastic surgery and u know it. quit picking straws.

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Anonymous #20 5w

thank you!!! bc why do they think there’s enough 10/10 studs roaming around for them to be our type to a point where it’s our “standard” and the reason we ignore normal guys😭😭

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Anonymous #5 5w

Women find confidence attractive not cocky, confident

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Anonymous mrunknown 5w

I wouldn’t want to date you I’m not that desperate

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Anonymous #25 5w

it wasn’t about standards… it was a post to show how sometimes we hyper fixate on things that aren’t sexual/ made to be sexual and it makes us attracted. It’s not a post about “all girls” just a post “MANY” girls have experienced

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Anonymous #13 5w

This was all very entertaining and I gotta agree with OP (also 19 is funny as hell)

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Anonymous #25 5w

I don’t wanna date folk anyway rn I want more money

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Anonymous inphochewated 5w

it wasn’t bc he manspreaded I was just saying I got a random hyper fixation on a act that was so unsexual and something that I never cared about before😭 it was just that for whatever reason it flipped a switch for me and that was the moment I saw him different

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Anonymous OP 5w

They really don’t and it sucks that they’re so insecure about approaching girls irl 😭

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Anonymous #30 5w

not everyone that’s attracted to you or that has a crush is gonna tell you… most of the time ppl don’t unless they were close with them before hand

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Anonymous OP 5w

Look it makes me more comfortable thinking that no woman has had a crush on me ok

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Anonymous #30 5w

How come?

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Anonymous #31 5w

I don't want people thinking about me like that, that's weird

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Anonymous #33 5w

Yeah my friends don't know any women

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