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The nonchalant epidemic needs to stop so many guys are holding themselves back bc of it
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Anonymous 2w

God forbid a man not pretend to be someone he isn’t

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Anonymous 2w

I wanna be joyous and whimsical and try to be, I’m just shy

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Anonymous 2w

Tbh I watched a movie from the 80s not too long ago where the guys there claimed being nonchalant gets them more girls, so ig this particular mindset has been around for an awful long time. None the less, it’s still stupid

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Anonymous 2w

Nonchalant genuinely works with a lot of women because then there’s a “chase” feeling. I’ve seen it work enough times

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Anonymous 2w

Might be true, but that’s what gets people to respond

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Anonymous 2w

Generally our mood or character is crushed and we get weird looks when we actually god forbid care about something, try to be the change in that regard if you haven’t already, then you’ve done your part.

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Anonymous 2w

How about women get over their height kink and their obsession with men being 6ft tall first? See how many doors open when you stop considering men of AVERAGE HEIGHT subhuman!

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

Respond to what?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

To you

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

Nope def a turn off

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

That’s different! I’m shy as well it’s more about the effort

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

I’m not chalant

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Whatever you say

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

Ppl need to show interest lol you can be chill but still interested

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Exactly, so why are you saying people can’t be nonchalant. You can get the same thing being chalant or not.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

Nonchalant is different than chill

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

It’s the same thing imo, what is being nonchalant to you

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

Like trying to act cool? Idk how to explain

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Ok I think we’re arguing semantics then bc no one likes someone who tries to act cool

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 2w

The woman chasing the man ?….

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Not exactly, just the feeling of wanting someone and you finally get them is more rewarding to the human brain than someone who’s immediately available. Being chalant can be seen as desperate, undesired by other people, too friendly, etc. it’s not a man vs woman thing it’s a human thing

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 2w

There’s a difference between nonchalant and busy with your own life? Nonchalant it’s like they don’t care

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Of course there’s a difference, but when you’re attracted to a person it’s easy to blur the lines. When a girl finds a guy hot, “he hasn’t texted me back or called me in 3 days” can turn into “he’s just been really busy and probably makes a lot of money”

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 2w

?

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 2w

me when i've never spoken to a women before

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Anonymous 2w

Dating apps are an awful thing to use to asses dating culture since its inherently rooted in physical attractiveness being the gateway into connection

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

Let me try to help. Ya know that meme of “do you even want to hang out?” “Oooh how considerate. Like I said ‘whatever’” “LIKE I SAID WHATEVER?! FUCK THIS GUY” That’s non chalant

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 2w

Literally what are you talking about. Most girls don’t care. We do care if they are interested or not

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 2w

i’m gonna sit here & say that not every girl is going to enjoy being ghosted for 3 days. i certainly don’t assume he’s out there making money? the last time someone didn’t speak to me for a week i removed them?

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Anonymous replying to -> #11 2w

Exactly so that’s why I was like? Everyone’s busy, if you really liked them you make time to text them. Not right away, but within a timely manner

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

as a law student, i can attest, truly busy people know how to prioritize their time if you’re not getting communication you’re not a priority! lol

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Anonymous replying to -> #11 2w

Same! I’m a teacher, my life is crazy but I’m still there if I care about you

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Anonymous replying to -> #12 2w

Most girls would agree that we would rather have a guy that cares than one that acts like he doesn’t

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

I agree, and it’s something I’m working on upholding despite the pressure from a lot of people around me. But it is a great deal of pressure

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