Anonymous #1 5w

erm as a girl i’ve gone for the quiet guy before and he also did not have good intentions

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Anonymous #4 5w

Fr. The most pent up men who will drop you on a dime if someone else shows them attention or they become overly clingy bc ur the best thing to ever happen to them

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Anonymous #2 5w

mine was just super mean to me and condescending. i guess he thought i was some ditz because i had blonde hair and asked him out first because im more outgoing. i prefer to pursue men rather than being pursued but some guys let it go to their head and start treating you like shit

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Anonymous #4 5w

Not saying nothing can go wrong. Just saying your chances are better that way

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Anonymous #1 5w

as a girl who dated a quiet guy i’ve known since 4th grade unfortunately it can be just as bad. i found out he had a lot of hidden addictions i didn’t find out until two years of dating (including porn to the point where he used girls instagrams and joined snap stories of girls posting their tits and bikini pics). long story short you never truly know a guy and always have this risk

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Anonymous #10 5w

I think they should wait for the right person not try to change themselves. But 10 is right, some guys are only tryna bang

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Anonymous #3 5w

Hol up, i never said some guys are just tryna bang🙅‍♂️. Just the opposite. False dichotomy: almost every guy is looking for the love of his life (diligence varying widely) while ALSO looking to bang (her and/or in the meantime). Sex is not evil and attraction is NOT (in men) negatively correlated with fondness; that’s miserable people propaganda

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Anonymous #10 5w

what. hey why don’t you guys just reject girls you’re not interested in and approach girls you are interested in. you mean to tell me that if girls want to date you, you’ll date them anyways even if you don’t like them and then treat them like shit????

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Anonymous #4 5w

What? We DO reject girls we aren’t interested in and approach ones we are interested in. And no, I don’t mean to tell you… whatever the hell you just said. I’m having trouble even deciphering that. You’re asking… if a guy would date a girl we’re not interested in and treat her like shit? Uh… no. Why would a guy date a girl he wasn’t interested in? What you said is almost as confusing as the fact you thought I was saying it lol. Or was this even the comment you meant to reply to?

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Anonymous #10 5w

That’s functionally what you said dude. “Every guy has good intentions for the right girl” + “almost every guy is… also looking to bang… in the meantime.” Ie guys will fuck a girl they don’t want to marry but think are attractive. In other words some guys just want to bang (some girls). Also it’s a fact: some men only want to fuck and don’t care about finding a woman. I know several

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Anonymous #3 5w

^^^ yep. and it’s not even true. i’ve met genuinely wonderful men who i had great connections with, and we just weren’t meant for each other. sometimes people just aren’t compatible and you don’t know til you’ve dated for a bit. i’m sure some men out there are looking to bone girls they deem un-marriageable while they look for their real wife, but that’s not normal to do to people, and they should consider talking to someone about how they feel about women. i recommend the show “Adolescence”

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Anonymous #3 5w

Well, yeah. You can’t marry every woman you think is attractive. That’s polygamy and it’s illegal in most jurisdictions. I thought that was a given But it’s not the same thing as “just” wanting to bang as if we don’t want something permanent. We do, just not with EVERY woman. Wifeability and compatibility are variable & women arent interchangeable. Just bc a guy doesn’t want to marry YOU doesn’t mean he wants to die single And you know several.. what exactly? How are you gauging that? Guys who

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Anonymous #10 5w

rejected the unimpeachably perfect love-of-his-life just because he’d rather chase more randos and die single? Cause if that’s what you mean then sorry, I just… don’t believe that. Just because a guy isn’t (or says he isn’t) making finding his wife his 1st priority doesn’t mean he’d turn her down if he found her

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Anonymous #4 5w

Hookups are “not a normal thing to do to people” and whoever thinks they are is the weird kid from Adolescence? Either I misunderstood your insinuation or you really need to examine that statement. Sorry but this isn’t the 1700s (and even then they were bsing about it a bit). The avg adult has a (significantly) >1 body count. Sleeping w ppl you wont marry may not be universal, but it’s definitely normal and certainly isn’t psychotic. Ur being puritanical & Im not even showing that much ankle

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Anonymous #10 5w

Hahahahaha you don’t know any technicians do you. Idk if they’re hurt and just won’t move on after their one love, but a guy at work told me more or less “all my married friends are unhappy. I swing between 5 different girls with exclusively physical relationships and I’m having a great time.” Imo he’s probably faking it and kids/love are probably more rewarding, but that’s what he said so

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Anonymous #10 5w

I also know construction guys with kids who are divorced. They have zero intention of marrying anyone ever again and just want to get laid. My old boss is 50 and rich and British with a 35ish old girlfriend and he never wants to get married

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