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men who have developed feelings for a friend pls share your experience of what is the best way to not hurt a guys feelings bc one of my guy friends who I am semi close w apparently likes me & now I feel awful idk if I accidentally led him pls help
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Anonymous 12w

It’s happened to almost every man, I think. The short answer is this isn’t your fault and you shouldn’t feel awful. Even if you had actually “led him on” men are used to indecisive women and if you’re his friend he probably won’t resent you for it. Just let him make his move and be honest with him. First be honest with YOURSELF so you can be sure of whether you want to reject him (important; don’t neglect that part). If you turn him down, DON’T lie to him about why or make up bs excuses. The rea

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Anonymous 12w

Just let home down easy

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Anonymous 12w

You just gotta be honest about your feelings and then it’s up to him to be mature and move on

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Anonymous 12w

I’m in the same situation sis

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Anonymous 12w

Be as honest as you can

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 12w

Him*

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 12w

Idk how though bc he’s not like straight up asking me out but I def don’t want to let it get to that point and ruin our friendship

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 12w

son being that if you tell him something that’s an obstacle he can overcome, he’ll move heaven and earth to do it. That said, of course, if you DO have a specific reason and it CAN concievably be overcome, then that’s not a bad thing. So giving your reasons is totally ok if they’re true. But if he just needs to give up forever, then tell him so very clearly (exercise caution ⚠️⛔️; there’s no good way to reverse that)

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 12w

Common misconception. It’s not going to ruin your friendship. Men aren’t women. We don’t resent people for wanting us, so we don’t think of romantic attraction and friendship as a zero sum game. You can have both, one, or neither. They aren’t mutually exclusive. You’re already not sleeping together(right?). So from his perspective, things can only get way better, or (if you reject him) remain the same

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 12w

Unless of course your friendship has no existence beyond his pursuit of you (which is uncommon), or if it’s a dealbreaker for YOU (doesn’t sound like it)

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 12w

Idk I think it has to change things at least a little—I personally would feel awkward around someone for rejecting them like that’s hard to ignore imo

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 12w

W advice

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 12w

Listen to what #3 said, they described it perfectly

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