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Ask Men 19h
I’m lesbian but wanted to see what straight men would do in this situation: Ur in a situationship for months, she goes on vacay and fucks another guy, you ask her to be ur gf not knowing this, she confessed a month into dating. Am I crazy for being upset
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Anonymous 19h

Technically we weren’t exclusive, but how are you gonna go on vacation and fuck the complete opposite of me. I don’t have a dick so it hurt extra

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Anonymous 18h

yeah i wouldn’t want to be with that person

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Anonymous 19h

Run

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Anonymous 16h

I wouldn’t break up but she needs to understand that she messed up. This early on tho I’d keep an eye out u don’t want to get too deep into this if she’s just a snake

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Anonymous 2h

Yea that’s fries I would break up

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Anonymous 16h

Your allowed to be upset but she literally did nothing wrong so yeah a little crazy

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Anonymous 17h

It’s valid for you to feel upset, but it’s about what you choose to do with those feelings. You may be lesbian, but you also need to understand she is bi. If you can’t handle that, that’s your issue that you need to work on, not hers. So you can either go talk to your therapist and find a way to get over it, or if it’s a dealbreaker for you then end things and move on, but you can’t stay mad at her for being who she is as a bi woman.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 19h

Ok im also a lesbian i just lurk on here but i have two thoughts: it is fucked up of her to not tell you for so long and valid af for you to be upset about. However, the fact its bothering u that its a man is lowk smth u need to get over

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 19h

I heavily disagree with your last point. As a lesbian, I feel like you should understand why it’s different. I’d be upset regardless of gender, but men add another layer because of the fundamental differences between us. It’s like a straight woman feeling insecure about her boyfriend only dating blondes, except I can’t dye my hair. I can’t grow a dick or become a man, and that makes it uniquely hurtful because it’s something I can never change about myself

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 19h

Is it break up worthy to u

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 19h

Possibly, I don’t think I’d want to be with someone who did a random hookup while we were talking to each other. Never been in that situation though

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 18h

But if u were dating a bi woman and yall broke up and she started dating a man whats the issue? Thats just lowk being weird ab bi women

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17h

That’s your own insecurities though, not something she did to you. What you’re complaining about is about the equivalent of a guy being upset with his current girlfriend that she had an ex who was taller than he is.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 17h

She’s not bi… She’s lesbian and was rly drunk and confused at the time. She did it in a self harm way. Stop tryna make it about biphobia lmao

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 17h

Yeah and many men would be upset by that. If a girl they rly liked fucked a tall muscular guy while they were going on dates and lied about it, they’d feel insecure too. Anyone would

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 16h

She’s not bi. She’s lesbian. For context, she was in denial at the time

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 16h

But I’m fully allowed to still be upset by that. You’re making it a biphobic thing when it isn’t

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16h

But it’s you who needs to figure out how to deal with your insecurities. She’s in a relationship with you now, and you’re jealous of someone she’s no longer seeing because they did something back before you were exclusive. Did she lie about it? Or did she just not tell you until now?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 12h

Welcome to the average guys world. We would be told its misogynist to feel upset at this

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 8h

You know ball

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