Anonymous #1 6w

It will be 3 months in 2 weeks

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Anonymous OP 6w

Hmm that’s kinda on the edge, he might just like taking more time with it that’s all, 2.5 months is reasonable to become serious but also it’s reasonable that someone isn’t ready quite yet

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Anonymous #1 6w

I feel like we’ve been moving at a good pace but not knowing certain things puts me on edge ig bc I’ve been played b4 and I don’t want this to turn out like that but it’s also fair to give him more time bc in his last relationship he got cheated on (that was about 10 months ago)

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Anonymous OP 6w

Tell him that! It seems scary, but just explain allllll of your thoughts and reasoning for thinking that way. Help him understand the situation completely and where you’re coming from so he can know what to say to give you proper reassurance. I’m not inclined to believe ill intent on his part yet, however, at this point I think finding a compromise would be more than completely fair, like if he could at least give you a better timeframe of when he’d be ready to become more serious

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Anonymous OP 6w

Based on this limited info I do honestly believe that he wants to become serious with you eventually, I’d guess he’s just comfortable with how things are currently progressing and doesn’t want to rush into anything and risk screwing up something good. That being said, still be careful and don’t waste a millisecond more time on him if you do realize that he is in fact, stringing you along after all

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Anonymous #2 6w

I don’t think he’s stringing me along at all, and I do believe he has good intentions, he told me he’s getting more comfortable with me, I just have been struggling to share my thoughts and feelings sometimes bc in my last relationship it was invalidated and he was emotionally/verbally abusive and I’m trying really hard not to self sabotage and run away from something good just because I feel like things are moving kinda slow

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Anonymous #2 6w

I don’t know how to explain to him that I need more reassurance though? Like what is an example of something I could say or example of that ? If u want more info please let me know and I can explain anything that might help helpful

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Anonymous OP 6w

Honestly? Exactly like you said it in the comments. Tell him you like him, but that you need more reassurance on that specific thing

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Anonymous #2 6w

I have told him I like him and he’s told me he likes me too, I don’t know how to explain it, but I feel like I might be the problem not him because I need more reassurance and he’s kinda shy and nonchalant ?

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Anonymous #3 6w

I’ve never been the type of person to date multiple at once, I’m already very much emotionally invested in him and I’ve been exclusive with him (I haven’t ask him if he has been but he really only goes to work, to gym and to see me so idk when there would be time to see someone else). If I’m being honest I’m already all in. I’m just waiting on him, I don’t know how to make him see the clock is ticking down because I don’t want to play games (not saying he is) but being something and nothing

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Anonymous OP 6w

(2/2) at the same time makes me feel sort of confused ig ?

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Anonymous OP 6w

He spends 100% of his free time with you but doesn’t want to rush into… what? Calling you his girlfriend? That’s bizarre. If he’s trying to better-deal you he’s being negligent about it. Do you know if he’s on tinder?

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Anonymous #3 6w

Yeah calling me his gf ig ?but wdym better-deal me, but def being negligent. And I would hope not ? Idk

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Anonymous OP 6w

“Better-deal you” means finding someone he’d rather date. It’s the main reason to hold off on formalizing a relationship or clarifying whether youre exclusive. But its weird to leave that door open if he’s not otherwise dating or even trying (which is what I mean by negligent; I think he ought to feel at least a little like he owes you an answer, whether good news or no). And I’m sure you would hope he’s not on tinder. But if he is, it would certainly provide you with the clarity you’re after.

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Anonymous #3 6w

Ah I see and tbh I feel like he doesn’t understand some of the things he should be doing? And About a year ago he got out a long term and his first relationship, so maybe he just doesn’t know what he’s supposed to do in that sense ? Or he’s just scared to get into something else? My friend says things are going good that I’m the one being like delulu abt shit bc I want reassurance and to be official

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Anonymous OP 6w

“In that sense”? What sense? You think maybe he doesn’t know what to do about a relationship he ended a year ago? Neither do I lol, what are you talking about? Why should he be doing anything about his former relationship? & if your friend is saying that, she’s prob right. Sounds like she knows something we don’t

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Anonymous #3 6w

I mean in the sense that he doesn’t know how to like date people? I’m the first person he’s like “dated” since her. He’s had hookups b4 me (I asked him his body count), but like he was in a long term relationship that ended bc she cheated on him. So maybe he’s taking more time before jumping into something? I’m not really sure, I think I blew my own emotions out of proportion with overthinking little things

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