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Ask Men 10w
okay so im a girl and i’m open to dating but i don’t even know how to meet guys. some people say they’re single but are still talking to someone but i genuinely have NO prospects. i don’t even have guy friends. i don’t think im super picky, but …
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Anonymous 10w

i know i don’t want to meet someone online because i don’t spend a lot of time online in general and would like someone similar. i’ve made the first move before but they usually end up being excited about it me approaching first, rather than being interested in me. being in clubs i like or class the guys kinda treat me like an alien. i have nerdier interests and study CS so it makes sense the guys don’t talk to girls much, but id still like a solution you know?

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Anonymous 10w

CS is a male dominated profession but most STEM guys are completely out of touch with women. You’re gonna have to make some male friends, so see if your girl-friends have any and try to hang out with them more

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Anonymous 10w

Hey, I’m a guy who graduated cs and honestly I have the same problem. Only one girly-friend who doesn’t really have anyone they could set me up with. I don’t go out much and while I’m “online” I’m not like really referencing much and I’m not chronic. I don’t think it’s just a you problem, so you’re not alone. I’m wishing there’s hope for you.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

i would say im pretty attractive, and i do get approached by guys a lot. but they’re usually too old for me, approach every girl, and/or kinda put me into this fantasy box. i hate to say it almost like a manic pixie dream girl. they’ll make a lot of assumptions about me based on the way i style myself and instead of caring to genuinely get to know me they’re very shallow think they have me completely figured out. i would like to meet a good guy but it feels impossible because of these reasons

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Anonymous replying to -> freestyle 10w

i guess it ends up being one of the same issues i mentioned before. i have a hard time making guy friends in the spaces i actually like to be because they act as if they’re scared of me. as for my girl friends, they don’t have many gut friends so the options are limited, and usually they end up being scared of me too. there was one guy my friends tried to set me up with and i was confused because when we’d all hang out as a group he would talk to everyone BUT me. i couldn’t even get to know him

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Anonymous replying to -> freestyle 10w

i don’t mean to sound like i have a rebuttal for everything but it’s just nothing tends to work for me idk😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

Well what are your hobbies

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 10w

i like movies, reading, anime/manga, working out(not sure if that counts), rock climbing, and i just started playing chess recently

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 10w

well on one hand i’m glad it’s not just me, because it really does feel like everyone else has something going on, but also it sucks that everyone is struggling

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

It does suck, but it’s better to feel better in any way you can then be sad abt it (: I hope you find someone cutie

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

Chess is top tier btw!

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 10w

Chess is too solved for my taste, it's just memorizing the openings

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