Ask Men on Yik Yak | Question would it be weird if i want me & my future husband to propose to one another? I understand it can be emasculating for men to be proposed to by their gfs, so but i want to propose. I want us both too lol.

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Ask Men 11w

Question would it be weird if i want me & my future husband to propose to one another? I understand it can be emasculating for men to be proposed to by their gfs, so but i want to propose. I want us both too lol.

Anonymous 11w

How is being proposed to emasculating? Wtf does that even mean? Nothing is emasculating

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Anonymous 11w

Anonymous 11w

I'm having trouble visualizing the process so I'll write what I think and you can clear up what I'm missing. Yall proposing to each other makes it sound like one of you proposes to the other, and then later the other proposes back with the whole vibe of "hey so I know we're engaged but I had this brilliant idea: we should get engaged". It doesn't quite make sense to me, sounds more performative than purposeful, what am I missing?

Anonymous 11w

Ask your future long term partner

Anonymous 11w

It wouldn’t be emasculating, but I’d definitely be like “get off ur damn knee, I’m gonna do it. Got a whole thing planned”. Cause really if you’re already engaged I feel like a proposal doesn’t count. If I do it second I’m playing make-believe

Anonymous 11w

Nah that’s cute! Go for it

Anonymous 11w

I would love to be proposed too, feel that special feeling I see women have all the time. That excitement joy every emotion, I want that.

Anonymous 11w

Likely the only way to actually have this happen is to plan it out... which ruins the fun of it imo if yall both know that it's gonna happen and likely where

Anonymous 11w

Nah dawg! Not it! Proposals are a man’s thing

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#3 11w

it's what someone on here said last time i asked abt proposing lol

Anonymous

OP 11w

They are wrong lol yeah it’s tradition but if my girlfriend proposed I’d be over the moon. And if yall are proposing at the same time? That’s super cute

Anonymous

#2 11w

i'd would prefer separate times tbh bc i want it to be a surprise and wouldn't want one of is if we put a lot into planning it to just jump on the bandwagon

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OP 11w

now if we do plan to do it at the same time or like on the same trip that be fine but not like one after another lol

Anonymous

#4 11w

according to?

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orange_joyful_cat44 11w

is this a negative or positive thing

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#5 11w

It's not really for performative reasons as obviously who goes second will know the answer. I just don't want to wait around to get engaged and would love to do it myself in a way that shows how much I want to be married to him. Plus I don't see why if I do it that denies him the right to do it back to me? I guess you can think of it similar to wedding vows but instead of vows it's a grand gesture of love and passion showing your commitment to each other.

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#5 11w

I also being a queer individual don't see myself in a traditional relationship anyway. A proposal is deeply rooted misogyny. Since marriage used to be between a man and a women was a business contract between the man and the women's father. Not like a unity of love like it is today. It also goes into like the man being the head of the family, and I don't want my marriage to begin in that traditional hierarchy. I just don't want to wait around just because i'm a woman. I can do it myself lol

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OP 11w

Neither

Anonymous

#8 11w

Agreed!

Anonymous

#8 11w

i mean like sure ig it doesn't count count but like why does that matter lol i think it be fun and cute to do it in our different ways

Anonymous

#8 11w

also like if I propose he like has the right to say "get off your knee i'm gonna do it" then i'm taking it as a no and will just wait untill he does it. obviously in a playful manner lol