Anonymous pirosnake 4w

I’ve tried pointing that out to him, but he has said (not word for word) that using his hands for anything besides on my nipples is too much effort for him (which is why I mentioned laziness)

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Anonymous #2 4w

My point exactly but he tries to get right into it. This morning, we had a friend over, and as soon as he left, he went right for the nipples :( like a hug or something woulda been nice. He isn’t patient either so, though I would appreciate build up, he wouldn’t at all. He technically can use his tongue, but when he does, his jaw starts hurting. And it’s to a point where I can’t kiss him normally on the lips without it hurting if he pierces his lips as well

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Anonymous OP 4w

Shit I mean yeah that sounds like he’s really going through it with the injuries and that does suck but it’s still not an excuse to act like that. I really just can’t imagine wanting to have sex that isn’t enjoyable for my partner, especially if the issue has been brought up before

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Anonymous #2 4w

I don’t even know what advice to give tbh. If you’ve said that you need more foreplay but he’s impatient and doesn’t want to change then that’s something he needs to work on. If he is willing to put in the effort then yeah gentle touches is good, maybe do something fun with getting undressed, maybe use ice or something. Or a toy? Lots of things you can do if he wants to make an effort

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Anonymous #2 4w

It’s a reoccurring issue, and I can have sex if I’m not in the mood for it because I’m can still get wet without being turned on mentally. However, he doesn’t like it when I don’t sound or look like I’m enjoying having sex. Otherwise, he’d just keep going. It’s really a cyclical thing

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Anonymous #2 4w

I’ll present him with these ideas. Maybe a toy to cut out the middle man idk

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Anonymous OP 4w

He doesn’t like it when you don’t look like you’re having a good time?!? Girl what about you?? You actually having a good time is at the very least half of the entire point in even having sex

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Anonymous #2 4w

It’s not all about your bf. Or shouldn’t be anyway

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Anonymous #2 4w

That’s why I’m asking here cuz in order for me to have a good time, I need to be turned on in the brain as well as my body, what what is being done rn isn’t helping that. We would both have a good time if I was having a good time, but currently, he is not putting forth the effort into building that possibility for me, but expecting the result of it. I’m able to have sex without being turned on in one way, but no sounds or faces will be coming out of me, and he can’t finish if I’m not there

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Anonymous OP 4w

Idk it seems pretty obvious what the issue is then. Your bf can either choose to make an effort or not yk? Seems like the whole thing is riding on whether or not he can consider someone else’s needs

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Anonymous #2 4w

That’s also kinda why I’m here. I would love it if he took the initiative for more effort, but I can’t ride off of no effort if he wants to have sex in the future. Is there any low effort things yall do to your girl without the use of the mouth or low usage of hands?

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Anonymous OP 4w

I used to tease my ex with light touches and like licking her neck cuz she loved that but I have a feeling your bf is too lazy for even that, which is the bare minimum mind you.

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Anonymous #4 4w

I will suggest these to him but if I see no changes, how should I do? This is my first relationship :,)

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Anonymous #3 4w

Fr? I am unaware of what is the bare minimum in bed or not. He is my first, and though I like having sex, I was never into the idea before the relationship so I didnt have the chance for much research before having it

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Anonymous OP 4w

I would recommend writing out reasons why you’re breaking up with him to help you. Do it in person rather than over the phone or over text.

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