Anonymous #1 4d

If you want to cast a wider net you can approach too

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Anonymous #1 4d

I’m so over it I just wanna be in a happy healthy relationship for once. It’s soo hard ugh

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Anonymous OP 4d

Then you either have to keep rolling the dice and get good at judging men to weed out the bad ones or spend time with groups of men in clubs or in class and slowly get to know them and work towards becoming friends and possibly more

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Anonymous #2 4d

The men in my class are idk tbh

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Anonymous OP 4d

Insecure about what 🤣

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Anonymous #3 4d

My looks lmao

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Anonymous OP 4d

Well then maybe give dating apps a try (stay as far away from tinder as possible) and get good at filtering men. It provides an idea of their appearance and personality so you can choose who you want. The main issue with dating apps is you really want to be good at filtering men otherwise you’re going to have a hard time on them

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Anonymous #2 4d

Scared of those tbh

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Anonymous OP 4d

Then I don’t know how to help you. There’s a lot of great guys out there it’s just most of them keep to themselves and fly under the radar and relying on them to make the first move is going to be one long wait. The best option in my opinion is try to get a guy friend through common interests and see if that progresses

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Anonymous #2 4d

Yeah imma be single forever lol. I barely get approached in public because I’m not attractive enough too. Then people I meet on social media are dicks so😃

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Anonymous OP 4d

As long as you’re not approaching frat guys you’ll be making men very happy by asking them out. It’s all we want

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Anonymous OP 4d

People on social media are usually massive dicks. Just because you don’t get approached often does not mean you’re unattractive, some guys may be intimidated by you or just simply too nervous (nervousness is a really good sign that they really like you). You can also do things to make yourself more attractive by eating healthy and getting exercise and by showing off your personality

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Anonymous #2 4d

I’m 120 lbs I’m very healthy for my height😁 I’m just not wanted

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Anonymous OP 4d

Well like I said they could just be intimidated or nervous. Depending on the guys around you they may not ask you out even if you’re the most beautiful person because they think they don’t have a shot or your already taken

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Anonymous OP 4d

This guy from my class approached me at a concert then told me since I have a car I can take him places. Yeah that makes me very attractive. Right ,☺️

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Anonymous OP 4d

Just because you’ve had some bad experiences with men who’ve approached you doesn’t mean that some guys aren’t crushing hard behind the scenes. Most men don’t approach the women they’re interested in. If you think you’re lacking in attractiveness then show off your personality. If you’re a nerd then go to a chess club or play D&D and you’ll make a couple of the guys there go nuts. I know a lot of men including myself find that women who enjoy the same hobbies as us are much more attractive

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Anonymous #2 4d

Just don’t be too hard on yourself. Dating is a long and bumpy road but I’m sure you’ll find the man of your dreams at the end

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Anonymous #2 4d

It seems to be only a bumpy road for me while everyone else has kids etc but not me

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Anonymous OP 4d

You’re not alone in that and from my own personal experience I know just how hard it is to deal with watching everyone around you seem to progress meanwhile you’re single. The thing is though others may rush into things but most marriages end in divorce and if you find that one person who truly works for you it’s a relationship that’s worth so much more. Just hang in there and work on slowly moving out of your comfort zone

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Anonymous #2 4d

Going on a dating app could give you a huge boost in confidence as you can see that men are actually interested in you and if you’re interested in them you could slowly work things at a pace that’s comfortable for you. If they ghost you or whatever then it’s probably for the best as they aren’t that special one but the ones that match your pace and you get to know on a deeper level could very well be your dream guy

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Anonymous #2 4d

This is NOT true. If you’re saying 99% of guys asking people out are a certain group of people that’s a gross misrepresentation. Getting asked out is different depending on so many factors. Location, time, outfit, how well you know them, if they have friends with them, etc. Using those you could maybe make some sort of statement, but saying that most men who ask out are bad is wild.

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Anonymous pinkgum 4d

You’re right. I’m only 21 I have time

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Anonymous OP 4d

Exactly. So much can change! You will be okay :)

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Anonymous #2 4d

99% of guys? Brother, you can just say you’re scared of rejection…💀

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