Ask Men on Yik Yak | What’s the nicest way to tell my bf he needs to get off the game and live more? He plays games all day everyday. I love to play too (he got me into it). But he will play +10h/day. When he’s not playing, he’s glued to tiktok. (1/?)

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What’s the nicest way to tell my bf he needs to get off the game and live more? He plays games all day everyday. I love to play too (he got me into it). But he will play +10h/day. When he’s not playing, he’s glued to tiktok. (1/?)

Anonymous 2d

Over the 5 years of our relationship, I’ve basically watched him slowly lose himself. He doesn’t want to do anything or go anywhere. He used to be spontaneous and lively. Now he does the same thing every day. As soon as he wakes up he games, eats, games after, class, games more, eats, games, sleep. Some days this is totally acceptable. We all need a “lazy” day. But this is every single day. It’s affecting our relationship bc I feel more like a caretaker than his gf. (2/3)

Anonymous

OP 2d

I cook for both of us, I clean the entire apartment while he has 1 chore that I have to remind him to do, and I do all of the laundry. He only snaps out of it when I’m breaking down crying from being overwhelmed. He’ll apologize for not doing enough only to go back to his zombie self the next day. Idk what to do. I don’t want to sound rude when I bring this up to him. I really do just want him to get his spark back and start living life with me the way we planned. (3/3)

Anonymous

OP 2d

This kind of sounds like he’s experiencing depression and may be using the game as an escape or distraction? I mean you know him best so I could be totally wrong. But I know for me sometimes depression isn’t being sad and mopey, it’s just being too apathetic and numb to be part of the world around me

Anonymous

#1 2d

Either way I am really sorry you are going through that and it’s not fair to you at all

Anonymous

#1 2d

That actually might be what’s going on! It feels like he’s on autopilot most of the time. What do you do when that happens to you? How do you start feeling like yourself again

Anonymous

OP 2d

I think it is probably different for everyone but for me it helps to force myself to socialize, get back into an old hobby or fav series, and exercise. All of that kinda helps ground me and get me out of my head and back into my body

Anonymous

OP 2d

As someone who’s done this and had a relationship end because of it, I think number one is right, sometimes it’s easier to play the game and ignore the bad things but as long as you’re there for him and talk to him he should slowly open up again and eventually get back to you