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is it wrong to give my bf an ultimatum that either he sees himself marrying me so we’ll stay together long distance after graduation or that we break up now

Anonymous 5w

I mean giving him an ultimatum like that is quite risky. I wouldn’t recommend doing this unless you are at least 90% sure he will say yes. So imo it’s not wrong but very likely to backfire

Anonymous 5w

…. What? Sees himself? Like, a daydream? That’s genuinely not a lot to ask but it doesn’t really tell you anything useful either

Anonymous

#1 5w

i’m not sure what his answer will be but i’ll accept it either way. i genuinely want to know because i think it’s worse for us to go long distance without an end goal

Anonymous

OP 5w

That is definitely true. My advice to talk to him abt it and the ultimatum is your last resort. The one thing u don’t wanna do is pressure him into marrying you bc if either of you have doubts it’s not gonna work. Yes be firm and fully transparent abt u wanting to know that. Then proceed from there

Anonymous

#1 5w

ty 🥲 what’s a better way to bring this up without being dramatic?

Anonymous

OP 5w

definitely give it then. don’t waste ur time and frankly if you’re not confident you’d last long distance just end it before then

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Anonymous

#2 5w

It’s a bit extreme but I get why you’re doing it. It’s understandable, idk enough abt u two or situation tho to rly rly help