only if that's been mutually communicated

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Is it mutually agreed upon? If yes, not at all! If no, then it’s abhorrent!

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Yes. If you have to ask and feel like you’re using him, chances are he’s NOT doing the same thing. A guy will always be happy do an honest no-strings-attached thing without having to pretend it’s something else… unless it actually IS something else. So to him it probably is

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