ik this is ask men but as a black woman i would 100% end things. if he’s okay with being friends with them he doesn’t actually think it’s wrong

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Completely understandable cuz i once met people that were like that (im white) and i absolutely refused to be their friends

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Honestly, yes… i know for sure, I wouldn’t let that shi fly in my friend group

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I don’t want to blame him for something his friends did but it’s just kinda unsettling bc are u just not saying anything bc im around? im just really conflicted bc he did tell them “fucking stop dude I mean it” and other things but it’s just like a hard spot to be in

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People can and do grow and change, but have you considered that before he was dating you he might haven’t been doing all of that with him? He may not have, but I’d be worried about if he only doesn’t cause you’re his gf now (though it’s still a possibility he hasn’t or that he knows better now)

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yes he most likely uses the word behind ur back when he’s with his friends

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What area do you live in, like when I lived in ny it was very very very rare to find a white guy that would say it, but like in the south it’s more common than not and I think I have like three friends in the south I haven’t heard say it at least once

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He might feel powerless about his friends. Look; it’s more about them disrespecting their friends and his gf. Not the racism. Even true racists wouldn’t act like that around their friend and his gf. Don’t break up with him just try to get him away from his “friends”!

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My ex is black and allll his friends who were white would say it, I never made it a big deal cus there his friends not mine and im also not black 🤷‍♀️

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