
purity culture and lack of sex education. there’s a misconception that women’s’ vaginas wear out and get looser after sex, which is objectively false. the only time a vagina can feel “loose” is shortly after childbirth. there’s also this weird insecurity of “what if i’m not as good as the others she’s had?”
i can only offer the dumb guy perspective but it literally means nothing to me, just shows pretty much how high you value the act, higher bodies normally mean a relationship isn’t or like that important to you when you fuck someone or atleast that’s what some psychological stuff says idk but why guys care so much about it is another thing in and of itself
if you were someone i was considering dating the last two would definitely worry me but it’s not like a dealbreaker. lmk if im giving an unsolicited unwelcomed opinion lol but since you’re worried about how your body count might look to your gf or other people i just want to mention that i would find it very weird if you were still in contact with that friend. if your girlfriend doesn’t care it’s whatever but most people would
Oh no I’m not worried or anything, more like genuine curiosity. Also my girlfriend knows about me and my 7 evil exes. And with that one friend, she also knows and is fine with the two of us fucking around and being freaky with each other. Because we both know we’re just friends and it ain’t that deep. Besties can make out LOL
right, but i’m genuinely asking why this is the norm. even if i don’t believe it personally, i genuinely want to know because from my standpoint, it doesn’t seem logical at all. STDs can be treated, genitals unchanged, and i’m not insecure about performance, so i really don’t get why it matters so much and i want to know