Anonymous #1 1w

see there r ways to approach women that won't result in any of these things tho

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Anonymous #5 1w

Yea rules 1 and 2. Be attractive. Don’t be ugly.

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Anonymous #3 1w

and you know this because of your vast experience with being a women?

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Anonymous #5 1w

A fish isn’t an expert on fishing.

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Anonymous #3 1w

no but a fish isn't online talking abt fishing from the perspective of the fisherman? if you aren't a women, then you aren't qualified to speak on what they want.

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Anonymous #5 1w

True, but if your aren’t trying to date women, you’re not qualified to speak on what they’re like to try and date

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Anonymous #6 1w

who says im not trying to date women?

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Anonymous #3 1w

mostly due to negative past experiences. but when there's this specific person that things are just different with, it changes the whole game

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Anonymous #5 1w

Are you?

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Anonymous #5 1w

Buddy if a woman thinks you look weird shes not gonna give you a chance

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Anonymous #5 1w

There’s no way to guarantee it won’t result in any of these things though, especially when cold approaching, and especially if you’re neurodiverse like myself and have a hard time accurately reading social cues and signals.

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Anonymous #5 1w

Just because there are ways to approach you that won’t result in making you feel uncomfortable, unsafe, or creeped out, doesn’t mean there are ways to approach any woman that won’t result in those things, and you can’t always know even immediately after the fact that approaching a woman resulted in those things, let alone before approaching her.

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Anonymous #5 1w

It’s a gamble where, even when approaching in a way that mitigates the risk, the risk of inadvertently making a woman feel uncomfortable, unsafe, or creeped out in approaching her is often too great for it to be worth doing so.

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Anonymous #6 1w

yes

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Anonymous #8 1w

and you're vastly overthinking it, most women in my experience don't mind being approached if you are polite and respectful about it, and don't immediately ask them out. just introduce yourself and if they want your number or snap they'll ask for it. straight people over complicate things.

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Anonymous #5 1w

Okay, so we should approach but let them be the one to ask for contact info if they’re interested?

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Anonymous #5 1w

I also think your experience dating and approaching women as a woman is different than approaching women as a man, because I believe most women tend to view a random women they don’t already know as less of a potential threat than a random man.

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Anonymous #8 1w

yes that way she's in control of the interaction, and you aren't getting mixed signals/dominating the conversation. also to reply to the comment abt approaching women as a women, i still have to risk whether or not she's into women, and bc i live in a red state that isn't always easy or safe.

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Anonymous #5 1w

i'm also not technically a women. my pronouns are she/they

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