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Ask Men 1w
Am I cooked? I went on a date with this guy and thought it went well, and we were texting regularly but today things just felt off and I saw he’s still actively using hinge. Ik it’s only one date and things aren’t exclusive but now I’m freaking out
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Anonymous 1w

I recommend talking to him about your feelings, he doesn’t have to change his behavior, but he can share his perspective too if you have a conversation

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Anonymous 1w

If it’s still going on after a second date, I’d say you’re cooked. Not because of anything you are doing, but because that man is fried. Then again, if you want to be in a relationship, being more vocal about it may help or end things quicker.

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Anonymous 1w

I’ve been both guys, the one who is locked in after the first text, and the guy who keeps looking. He may be hurting from a past relationship and is trying to recapture that perfect feeling and you may not be it (yet) unfortunately. Or he’s just a douche.

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Anonymous 1w

Options open until someone is locked down, go get em

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Anonymous 1w

I don’t understand why people worry so much about this. Even when I like someone, I’m still talking to others online. If you don’t play the game you put yourself at a disadvantage. Until we have a talk about exclusivity, I’m still going to be on the apps.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1w

And I also asked him to get food this week and he said “I would but I'm not sure if I'll have time” “I'll have to see how much work I get through” Does that mean he’s not that into me? He does have like 3 exams next week but my dad is saying if he really liked me he’d still make time to see me if he liked me

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 1w

I guess I worry the connection wasn’t as strong for him and if he was into me wouldn’t he be excited to date me? Or like even this week he’s busy with exams I asked if he still wanted to get food but he said he’s busy. I guess I’m just feeling scared of being strung along by someone who isn’t really into me

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Of course, but heavy exams are another thing, especially for a serious student. When he said he was busy did he suggest another time? I would just try to emotionally detatch and see where it goes, but don’t waste your time with someone if they keep doing this. It’s not as simple as, “If he wanted to, he would have” a lot of the time.

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