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is it better to tell a guy before we fuck that i was raped and get scared easily or let him find out

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Anonymous 14w

Definitely something they should know especially if they’re a longtime partner

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Anonymous 14w

In my opinion if you don’t feel comfortable talking about your sexual needs with that person then that person isnt the one

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Anonymous 14w

If it’s something where “let him find out” means you get scared or freak out during intimacy or something like that then yes he should know

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Anonymous 14w

100% tell him, his response will also lyk if you should fuck

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Anonymous 14w

you should tell any kind of sexual partner for your sake but also so that they know what's going on and don't get put off by it when it happens

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Anonymous 14w

Informed consent requires that any additional risks involved in an act of intimacy be clearly communicated in advance. Yes, you ought to tell them.

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Anonymous 14w

Tell him when you’re ready. And don’t have sex until you’re ready.

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Anonymous

#1 14w

thanks king

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Anonymous

#2 14w

i’m talking more like casual things cause i’d tell a life long partner duh but like i don’t wanna scare them away but i get freaked out easily they got to be gentle

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Anonymous

OP 14w

Either way it’d be more comfortable for both you and him to let them know. That way if you freak out or something it won’t freak him out and make it worse

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Anonymous

#4 14w

like the comment below

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Anonymous

#3 14w

true

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Anonymous

#8 14w

You don’t have to go in detail, but at minimum tell them that intimacy can sometimes be a PTSD trigger for you, because that sounds like what is happening

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