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am I doing something wrong. multiple exes have ghosted me. And somehow I end up being the one who always cares more in the relationship. f20
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Anonymous 1d

Yes you should consider therapy, maybe you’ll find clarity :)

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Anonymous 1d

these are all depending on the situation but im willing to be on your side and say you're not the problem💯

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Anonymous 1d

Do you try to be overly friendly with them after a relationship, pestering even? That could explain he ghosting, it’s a lack of social cues

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Anonymous 1d

wait same actually and then they show up like 2 years later saying they miss me so i just laugh at them

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Anonymous 12h

sounds like u have anxious attachment and your exes were avoidant

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

aww I hope not. genuinely I just wish I could find someone who cared as much for me as I always have for my romantic interests.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

im sure the right person will come sooner rather than later. (this is at least what i tell myself since im too waiting for the right person💔)

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

I guess I can wait it's just I want someone to hold me when it's cold and I'm so tired of crying myself to sleep because I'm only ever alone💔

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

i feel you i would love to do those things too😢

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

Then how do we cause I’m so lonely

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

no I wouldn't say so, I check in but I'm never or at least rarely overly bothering them.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

I've been in therapy for many years

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Hmmm, then I’m not sure. Is there context you’re leaving out?

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

I mean I'm sure there's always going to be context because it's my side of the story. but I often get used. once I'm not comfortable with certain physical things and ask to take it slow they lose interest. or once I need them they pull back but when they need me I'm always there. or I initiate plans and they have fun, but then they don't initiate plans back but they show just enough interest to where I think they genuinely like me

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Ahhhh. So maybe it’s not you as much as it is them. They similarly pull away, is it possible they have other similarities? It could reveal a type you have or not

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

well not to be to much. but my dad left me when I was a kid. and he never treated me right. so I didn't know for the longest time what to look for and I'm still not sure

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Sorry to have made you reveal that, listen I’m sure you’re a great girl. I wouldn’t dwell on guys that aren’t ready to be In relationships. Focus on who you’re becoming

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

thanks🩷 it's okay it's not something I hide it just has been weighing on me lately. I guess at the end of the day I'll either find someone of 💀 alone lmao

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