Anonymous #1 2w

bruh i’ve tried trust me

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Anonymous #2 2w

I would rather have toxic masculinity at this point than someone who will start an argument over me not replying for an hour

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Anonymous #3 2w

Maybe you’re right but i do feel like in general men are less masculine nowadays

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Anonymous OP 2w

That’s def just your guy, sounds a bit clingy. Even by my standards 😭

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Anonymous OP 2w

Fym “tried” did he tie y’all together?

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Anonymous OP 2w

Lol feminism, primarily being pushed by the most embittered and spiteful women of society, has ruined a lot concerning dating and relationships (even more outside of it too) for the normal women because it turns out that for 90% of women, masculinity is attractive and they want a man that can financially provide for them, but this has been made harder and harder to find.

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Anonymous OP 2w

Toxic masculinity is a misnomer because the only time masculinity is toxic is when it mixes with femininity to just have the worst of both, masculine men are needed more than ever yet have been largely cleansed from the dating pool via bs propaganda about emotional intelligence or not being too dominant even when that is what most women want.

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Anonymous #8 2w

same reason men have been emasculated, feminism. feminism convinced women they are just like men at their core when they couldn't be further from the truth.

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Anonymous stanczyk 2w

I was being rhetorical. It’s really easy to understand behaviors like this. Additionally I feel like 90% of women don’t know what real healthy masculinity is and 90% of men don’t know what femininity really is

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Anonymous stanczyk 2w

yeah idk what ur yapping about twin, emotional intelligence is important for everyone to have regardless of gender or relationships

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Anonymous inphochewated 2w

i got stalked essentially i told u it’s like some crazy ex gf shit

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Anonymous OP 2w

you are correct

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Anonymous OP 2w

being "emotionally intelligent" (with modern connotations) often means being openly emotional / emotionally vulnerable/ soft to """better handle our emotions """ which is not masculine in any sense nor a good idea for men apart from masculinity. The only emotional intelligence really needed from us is to be able to interpret how our partner is feeling and how to deal with it, something that while hard is critical for relationships

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Anonymous stanczyk 2w

yeah that’s not what emotionally intelligent actually means by any definition, you’re just seeing chronically online posts about it if you think that’s the modern take on emotional intelligence. emotional intelligence is about being able to manage your own emotions in a positive manner, not being “soft” lol i think the modern definition you’re talking about just comes from shitty tiktoks and tweets

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Anonymous OP 2w

I am saying that the modern conception of "emotional intelligence" and advice reguarding personal emotional regulation comes primarily from the female perspective. This is not an issue of me being terminally online (because i'm not, this is the only social media i use aside from direct messaging services) but rather of the female bias among contemporary and historical psychotherapy literature and practice. It is a shining example of trying to use solutions designed for women on men.

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Anonymous stanczyk 2w

so that’s wrong lol the leading modern researchers/authors on emotional intelligence are: DANIEL GOLEMAN (literally popularized EQ), peter salovey, and john d mayer 😭 if you’re complaining about the increase of females in therapy/psychiatry jobs that’s only occurred in the past 25 years. “contemporary” refers to the past 80 years post WWII. Also, historically, men have dominated the psychology field

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Anonymous OP 2w

Females have been the primary patients, that is where the bias lies.

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Anonymous stanczyk 2w

that reflects a lot more on the historic misconception of female hysteria than any productive developments of psychology

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Anonymous OP 2w

It does

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Anonymous OP 2w

i believe it holds psychology back quite a lot, but also is the natural inclination for men to be reserved emotionally which makes us harder to study that cause this as well.

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