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Is autistic rizz real? All i need to do to get with a woman is tell her about plants, pick some and make her dinner, and bam now we have a connection
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Anonymous 4d

As an autistic woman (sorry ik this is ask men) I’ve noticed a lot of men are very surprised by my autistic tendency to info dump and actually carry on a conversation. I’m getting the impression that most people don’t hold interesting conversations?

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Anonymous 4d

I feel like the comments on this post is proof that autistic rizz is your proof babes

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Anonymous 4d

And tbh sometimes i feel kind of like a womanizer for pulling the foraging to homemade dinner date because every time it ends in sex. Like am i a predator for that lowkey? I never have any expectation for that

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Anonymous 2d

As an autistic man, I think it really depends. Most important is that you are talking to a girl who is receptive to it. Many are not, some are. Some will think silent confusion is cute, and some will think you are weird. Some will want to hear everything about your special interests, and some will think you are talking about yourself too much. Just try not to get self conscious about it because when the right ones come along, they will let you be you. Also still be a good boyfriend of course.

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Anonymous 4d

Part of it is a lot of men don’t actually ask us about ourselves. I’m an autistic woman and man is it complicated to get someone to actually talk to me and listen to my interests without making it about themselves

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4d

And by surprised, I mean in a positive way. They just always point it out and go out of their way to say it’s different and refreshing (and therefore makes them want to actually go on a date instead of just hooking up)

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4d

Im not sure if other ppl arent holding interesting convos more than theres social conventions that limit expected depth of conversation, at least that is my theory. I dont have this and will go off the deep end entirely when it comes to my special interest. I think i am however lucky that many women also find it interesting, especially like endemic wildflowers

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4d

I think you’re onto something with that! But I’m the same way. I also love learning new things from people so I try to do the same with whoever I’m talking to. I’m a whole encyclopedia full of useless but interesting information lol

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4d

listen if you have no expectations for it and it ends in sex anyway the women are definitely interested. not your fault for being charming

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 4d

Wdym making it about themselves? When someone else is talking about their interests i always try to tie it to how i can relate to it to show the person that im invested. And when im infodumping i always appreciate it when others do the same cuz i get to then steer the convo towards the parts of my interests that interest them so im not just yapping one sidedly

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3d

Like if I talk about video games. I can’t go even a minute before someone brings the conversation to why that game sucks. Or that they would never play it. Or this is a real game that’s more fun, without even listening to WHY I like the game in the first place. In my experience most men aren’t active listeners.

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 3d

Idk why this is being downvoted that sounds frustrating. I dont think its fair for you to necessarily expect no pushback but if youre consistently put down for what you like that cant feel good

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3d

Oh no people can push back. I’m just saying that this is a lot more common than you would expect for women. I know loads of people who can’t even carry a simple conversation or be good at actively listening. Ask me questions! I can’t remember the last time a guy I was talking to asked me questions about myself beyond “how was your day”. It’s a real problem.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

Most people do absolutely nothing of interest. Their hobbies include doom scrolling social media and watching Netflix (maybe).

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 1d

Wait what games have you played you have me interested now haha

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 1d

Im not sure if thats true. Most people i meet where i live at least have cool stuff going on and are pretty skilled at their hobbies. Like instagram reels as well but also cool shit. Or at the very least are willing to humor my interests

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 1d

Well I play games like Minecraft, stardew valley, raft etc. But I’ve also been playing Pokémon violet recently and I’m going to start playing some more horror games! I haven’t had time to game at college so now that I’m back at home I’ve got a lot of catching up to do

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