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mr.stand_on_bidness

 Yo let me hear your thoughts on this. I feel like there needs to be a separate sexual orientation for dudes getting pegged. There’s different levels of straight I don’t feel it’s reflected enough in the current game
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Anonymous 4w

You can be straight and wanna be pegged bro just say you’re fruity

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Anonymous 4w

Sex with a women is heterosexual, doesn’t matter how you slice it. Toys or not it’s still not homo.

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Anonymous 4w

I disagree. Sexual orientation, including gay or straight, is specifically about the people you’re attracted to, it doesn’t say the way in which you want to have sex. We already have bottom, top, vers, dominant, submissive, and switch as words for what you’re trying to describe

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Anonymous 4w

I disagree. Preferring to get pegged, preferring penetrative sex, and preferring oral does not impact sexual orientation it’s just preference for a certain sexual activity.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

Naw there needs to be a distinction so we can address these demographics specifically

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

The latter 2 are common in heterosexual intercourse. Getting pegged isn’t common and definitely less normal for a straight man

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 4w

I think there needs to be an asterisk beside it. Different coins, different games

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Anonymous replying to -> mr.stand_on_bidness 4w

Fellas is it gay to want to have sex with a woman

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

Another commonly said phrase around this discussion yet it doesn’t do good to dismiss the nuance of the difference in sexual acts that mimics homosexuality. No doubt you can enjoy licking dildos and be heterosexual but it’s less heteronormative in the sense is doesn’t align with established norms.

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Anonymous replying to -> mr.stand_on_bidness 4w

Okay wait now that you’ve brought heteronormativity into this I feel like that puts this in better perspective. Heteronormativity is def why it feels like different acts come with varying levels of straightness and it’s honestly detrimental to enduring societal norms and getting to a point where queer and straight people can interact with sex however they want and not be put down for it

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

Sorry I’m confused on the last part, did you mean can’t interact with sex how they want? And detrimental in what ways? Yeah overall my argument or stance is the sexual acts reflect a spectrum of sexuality rather than entirely removing their identity for the act. It hasn’t really been something addressed nor do I think it’s even remotely tangible to quantify or label, even though I have a “call to action” for that exact same issue. It’s really want to facilitate discussion.

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Anonymous replying to -> mr.stand_on_bidness 4w

Oh shoot I did mean that, thank you for catching it. And detrimental in that as homosexuality is still so highly stigmatized, the stratification of straightness in today’s conversations can be understood as being more or less gay than another. So while I do disagree with your previous wording that there are “levels” to straightness, there are definitely different ways to be straight and they often do overlap with preference in sexual acts

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

I can understand that. I do find it to be bad when heterosexuality and homosexuality are used to juxtapose each other rather than a different in orientation entirely which is what I think you were getting at, correct me if I’m wrong. I can’t really speak on any personally perceived spectrum of homosexuality as I can with heterosexuality, however I do see this likeness of discourse found when people talk and chastise “DL” men as being actually gay even while they insist their label of-

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Anonymous replying to -> mr.stand_on_bidness 4w

Heterosexuality. Then it gets into the an even more harder discussion of labels and trying to understand queer theory and allowing them a space to confront their sexuality even when another tries to impose their perception of their sexuality to what they actually feel. Again 2 sides of the same coin that deserve to be discussed

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Anonymous replying to -> mr.stand_on_bidness 4w

I believe you and I are in agreement here and this was a really good discussion that I’m gonna think about some more

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 4w

Descriptors for the role u having during sex yes. And I mean I guess I mean a different way to explain the differences in sexuality as it relates to those preferences, which is much more broad for this conversation as a whole. Like you said bottom and top describe the preferences and dynamics in a queer relationship there’s not something to describe it when it pertains to straight dynamics like this. If that makes sense

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Anonymous replying to -> mr.stand_on_bidness 4w

You can use top/bottom, dom/sub in straight relationships, it doesn’t affect your sexuality, just your preference for sexual activities

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Anonymous replying to -> mr.stand_on_bidness 4w

I think those words work fine honestly, I don’t think there really needs to be very much detail when describing surface level sexual preferences with single words. It would help if people didn’t always just assume bottom also means sub, etc

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