i can agree, i feel like women tend to have more people willing to pursue them than men do. and men are expected to make the first move. given these social expectations, it makes it feel as if men are only romantically valuable if they can get women to like them back

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As far as nudes, it is very rare for any guy to be offered nudes by someone he isn’t in a relationship with, and possibly even by someone he is in a relationship with. As for being “wanted”, women are clearly way more wanted in general but a lot of the most attractive men probably don’t have trouble with it so it’s probably not universal. Personally I’ve never had any interest in me at all, but I’m also below average attractiveness so I can’t really blame anyone

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I would say it is a common sentiment, but it’s far from universal. Different guys get noticed more than others, and different people think about that in different ways. I think this guy’s on the darker side of the scale, but he has company. We’re definitely less likely to get sexualized, but I think it’s more of a positive to not get randomly objectified and asked for nudes out of the blue. The masculinity thing idrk what he’s talking about, but dating is hard for most.

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Can’t read too small

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100% agree. I think you find yourself always doing the pursuing and never being pursued certainly and, eventually, it makes you feel as if you were never desirable, even if your advances are well received. You always have to be the one to put things in motion. I feel like the best thing my gf ever did for my sexuality (not saying I'm gay, I mean literal sexuality), was be unapologetic in her attraction and not be coy about things like asking for nudes or initiating sex.

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Yeah… it’s pretty common. We get no attention until people want something from us.

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Somewhat, yeah (although I can happily say I’ve experienced this waaaaay less in recent years). Yet another L for patriarchal societies that insist men chase women and not the other way around.

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Yeah I’ve never felt desired ever in my life. I’m guessing it’s pretty common

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It is indeed rough and real…

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100%

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Yes very much so

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Probably depends on the person cause girls ask me for nudes all the time

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Yup

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