Anonymous #1 1w

I will say tho, as a man who has been physically harassed sexually multiple times, women often face more “”violent”” cases of SA (I am not excusing anything I am just saying there are more unique safety challenges)

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Anonymous #2 1w

I’m not saying I totally agree with you OP but in my experience it is easier to get away with it as a woman, but I don’t think there’s as many female predators as there are male, since ive seen it from both sides. But I do think it’s important to recognize when we let certain people do certain things without consequences because of our biases and more people need to believe victims, regardless of their gender. I just don’t hold any resentment towards women for it bc she did it bc she chose to.

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Anonymous #2 1w

And not because she’s a woman and knew she could get away with it, but because she’s evil and decided to do something evil, regardless of gender.

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Anonymous #1 1w

i would also agree with that, but sometimes male predators go for male victims, and those cases can become pretty violent. i also think even if a case isn't violent it shouldn't be less important bc it would still be traumatic.

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Anonymous #2 1w

i think it's more so predatory behavior in women often goes unchecked/overlooked, like with the toxic boy mom thing. it's normal for a mom to be close with her son yes, what isn't normal is relying on that relationship to fulfill your romantic-emotional needs. a mom shouldn't feel jealous that her son is dating someone and shouldn't say things like "i wanted a man, and was given a son" etc.

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Anonymous OP 1w

I honestly don’t know what you’re talking about with the “boy mom” thing but I feel like we’re talking about two very different issues

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Anonymous OP 1w

i think that dynamic can cause the son to have a warped view of women as a whole. young men / boys need a women role model in their lives that doesn't cross any romantic boundaries. it's also why women should really be in a stable place before they have kids.

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Anonymous OP 1w

idk about all that but go off I guess

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Anonymous #4 1w

that's another thing like it takes male victims especially if they were children well into adulthood to even realize sometimes they were victims. im not sure why like an inappropriate relationship like a teacher x student would be enjoyable for anyone

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Anonymous #5 1w

i think there is. Just predatory behavior is overlooked in women and male victims can be socially conditioned to "enjoy" it and/or not realize they are victims.

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Anonymous OP 1w

there's not tho. i believe that there are a lot of female perpetrators that go overlooked/ aren't reported but i'm still willing to bet that it's still no where near the amount of men. men are just biologically more likely to exhibit paraphelias, like pedophilia, exhibitionism, frotteurism and have coercive tendencies. like all research on this shows it’s overwhelmingly male. even if there is underreporting that wouldn't explain the whole discrepancy. men account for 90-99% of sexual offenses.

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Anonymous #6 1w

I see what you're saying but my argument is that there are so many things in life where women are just vastly underreported and/or researched. I mean neurological disorders like autism and adhd were once believed to only affect men, and still to this day it's a lot harder for a neurodivergent women to receive a diagnosis than it is for a man. I don't see why things like predatory behavior would be any different. Especially bc like they can go hand in hand with neurological conditions

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Anonymous #6 1w

and i also think because of social stigma lot of men might live there entire lives as victims bc they don't even realize they are one, or they have all this trauma and no clue why bc they were either groomed or abused or SA'd at the hands of a women. Remember men account for 90-99% of REPORTED sexual offenses. Im not sure of the statistics but im pretty sure men are less likey to report sexual crimes even if it happened to them by another man.

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Anonymous #6 1w

and this also isn't to say that men aren't capable of being predatory like obviously yes they are, but i feel like if we only focus on predatory men bc women are less likey/harder to weed out, then it doesn't help anyone.

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Anonymous mrunknown 1w

and that's a problem!! why is that normal!!

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Anonymous OP 1w

Yeah it happened in my highschool 2 lady teachers who had slept with students were asked to leave the school they weren’t fired charges didn’t get pressed but a teacher who tried to get free nudes from a former student who was on OF got fired and a criminal case

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Anonymous OP 1w

You can search up studies on this stuff, just take a look at sentencing trends between convicted male and female pedophiles.

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Anonymous OP 1w

i agree more research and focus needs to be done on female perpetrators and male victims. male victims are still treated unfairly and with high levels of stigma. women perpetrators are treated lighter and aren’t taken as seriously.

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Anonymous OP 1w

tht being said, the evidence we do have about sex offending patterns isn’t just the result of bias or lack of data, it’s pretty robust across cultures, time periods, and methodologies. biological and psychological factors play a large role. men make up the overwhelming majority of people with paraphilic disorders and these patterns show up even in clinical samples, and anonymous self-reports, not just in legal or reported data.

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Anonymous OP 1w

there are several reasons for that men, on avg, have higher baseline sex drives, greater rates of sexual compulsivity, and more aggression-linked hormonal profiles (like higher testosterone). there’s also evidence that certain paraphilias are heavily tied to male specific sexual conditioning patterns and neurobiological differences

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Anonymous OP 1w

the research on this is consistent and valid. men perpetrate the vast majority of sexual offenses. that is not a dig at men, or me diminishing male victims or not taking female perpetrations seriously. it is just a fact.

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Anonymous OP 1w

i do research on intimate partner violence and have studied the psychology of human sexual behavior. the literature, and research is heavily consistent. scientists who have dedicated far more time than you have to this subject are all in agreement

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