Anonymous #1 12w

Explain?

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Anonymous hellraiser 12w

Yeah right

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Anonymous hellraiser 12w

So men have the capacity to feel deep emotions and not just lust toward a woman?

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Anonymous #3 12w

ok but like what’s your definition of yearning

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Anonymous OP 12w

Yea, we don’t often show it though due to fear of rejection, being perceived, as a creep, or are afraid of making her uncomfortable to express it.

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Anonymous #3 12w

Like is it constantly thinking about them and what it would be like to date them or is it mainly lustful like “need to hit that… anyways lemme swipe on tinder”

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Anonymous OP 12w

Thinking about her/him every single moment of the day, wanted to surprise and make them smile, checking our phone over and over again just to see if they’ve even seen our taxts, overthinking the works,

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Anonymous OP 12w

Intense wanting or longing for someone especially someone who you can’t have for whatever reason

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Anonymous #4 12w

So how are we supposed to know if yall don’t do anything? I feel like in this generation so many guys wait for the girl to make the first move

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Anonymous OP 12w

absolutely are you kidding? what a horrible thing to insinuate about men. i see it all the time. i’ve had to end multiple flings because the guy wanted things to be more serious and had caught feelings. my friends are dating great, loving men. i have guy friends in loving relationships.

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Anonymous #3 12w

You pull this straight out the dictionary or?

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Anonymous OP 12w

It’s one big cease fire

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Anonymous #5 12w

Yes a lot like this. Rereading every convo we’ve had, seeing where they’re at, checking their friends social medias to possibly see them too, writing these thoughts about them, etc

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Anonymous OP 12w

No, that’s what I define it as

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Anonymous hellraiser 12w

2 of my friends have great boyfriends but those are like 1 in a million

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Anonymous hellraiser 12w

I know good guys exists they’re just hard to come by in this era

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Anonymous orange_joyful_cat44 12w

Finally an honest answer

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Anonymous OP 12w

it sucks to struggle dating, i think most people do, but to make insinuations that men can’t even feel deep emotions outside of lust, and that only one in a million are good guys just isn’t the way to go.

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Anonymous hellraiser 12w

Ok babe I’m speaking on my general experience. Obviously the world is big enough for good men to exist. But as a 20 year old in college most men just wanna fuck. I’m allowed to have my qualms with that and feel the way I do based off my own experience

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Anonymous #8 12w

I don’t go after men

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Anonymous OP 12w

Then what experience do you have to say men don’t yearn 😂

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Anonymous OP 12w

Men don’t yearn for women anymore because the women that men would yearn for don’t exist anymore.

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Anonymous #8 12w

Yeah bc I’m sure 80% of the men at college has had his heart chewed up and spit out before 18 years old. Some guys don’t have to go through heart break to be a bad person, some people just are bad people. And unfortunately in this generation with the accessibility to porn and dating sites it’s easy for men to get their quick gratification

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Anonymous #9 12w

Because the men that yearn for them are not the men they want yearning for them

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Anonymous #8 12w

I meant like I don’t go after those kinds of guys you assumed I “go after the wrong guys” like no I’m very strict with my boundaries

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Anonymous #1 12w

What kind of women would you yearn for

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Yes and no bc Women don’t struggle as much with porn as men do and there’s been lots of studies that show the way it effects the male brain to view women as just objects

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Anonymous #1 12w

And before you say “nuh uhh women like that still exist”, yes, of course they do, just like men who yearn

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Anonymous #1 12w

No you’re good you can say what you feel

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Anonymous OP 12w

Well ya, either the girl makes the first move, nothing happens and they move on, or the guy eventually could just be like “f*ck it!” and take the chance to ask them out, but is definitely rarer these days. Especially with me and my fellow men seemly being more insecure than previous generations.

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Anonymous #1 12w

Yeah exactly ofc they’re exceptions but they’re hard to come by yk. Everyone in this comment section is an exception warrior like god forbid I speak on what I see.

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Anonymous #4 12w

Yeah I wonder why they’re becoming more insecure, so many men (that I’ve come across) will just make their friend wingman for them and then I have to approach them like?? We’re getting too old for this childish games

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Anonymous #10 12w

Mam where are you finding men?? Like where has your experience come from?

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Anonymous #10 12w

Didnt mean to reply 😭

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Anonymous #5 12w

College campus

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Anonymous OP 12w

No but like where on campus

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Anonymous #10 12w

In general, like I have some 10/10 friends and men still just only lustful

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Anonymous OP 12w

Like in classes or at the gym or library

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Anonymous #5 12w

Outside (my school has a huge quad where people usually go) Dorm parties, and bars

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Anonymous #5 12w

Where you find a guy and what hes doing in the world has a lot to do with their character

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Anonymous OP 12w

OK, so you’re gonna complain about dudes being lustful when you meet them in general hangout spots dorm parties and bars???

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Anonymous #5 12w

Also like all of my guy friends are a huge reason why I think this way, like they’re great people I love them, but the way they go about hooking up with people is so saddening like where’s the love?????

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Anonymous #5 12w

Bro please, you can’t be serious. Those are the main places to socialize. I’m not gonna bother someone random in the library and I’m most likely not gonna find the love of my life in a class room where we can’t even talk and most people leave immediately once it’s over

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Anonymous #5 12w

Sure sometimes, but I go out from time to time that doesn’t mean I’m an alcoholic who just wants to fuck? So no I kinda disagree with where you are says everything about your character

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Anonymous OP 12w

All I’m trying to say is that location and activity are important, we can say all we want about young men and their habits

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Anonymous #5 12w

Also, if we’re supposed to be patient with people when there’s a hormone imbalance, can we be patient with men when they have high sex drives? It’s kind of the main thing testosterone does hell women in bodybuilding competitions who take testosterone have astronomically higher sex drives when they’re on testosterone.

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Anonymous #5 12w

Seeing a pattern of people being lustful doesn’t mean they’re incapable of love, lets stop dehumanizing people

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Anonymous #5 12w

Huh? What are you taking about “If we’re supposed to be patient with people when there’s a hormone imbalance” where’s this coming from

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Anonymous #5 12w

Are you refering to periods? Bc a women’s period is not controllable, a man’s lust.. is.

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Anonymous #5 12w

Never said they were incapable

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Anonymous #5 12w

It’s just easier for them to not have feeling and fuck whoever they can. Not that they can’t love, they just don’t care to

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Anonymous #5 12w

Selfish creatures

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Anonymous OP 12w

If we’re talking about hormones, impacting external behaviors, then yes, testosterone causes everybody to be more provocative, just like how somebody on their period can control their mood. It’s difficult so if you go to a bar where there’s a bunch of young men who are likely under the influence, then it’s easy to see that person as nothing but lustful when there is a deeper human underneath, and you saw them in one context

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Anonymous OP 12w

By the way, I am sorry if men have been hurtful or disgusting to you that’s excusable, but even monsters are terrible People are still people.

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Anonymous #5 12w

“If we’re talking about hormones” bro we’re not talking about hormones. You seem to want to talk about hormones tho. I don’t. You’ve lost the plot and made this conversation way more draining than it needs to be. Simple wish men yearned post and expected comments like “no we do *insert their cute stories to give me hope* not a fucking gender hormone war

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Anonymous #5 12w

People still people yeah yeah alright ok

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Anonymous #12 12w

I hope someone matches your yearn king 🤞

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Anonymous #12 12w

Based - I’ve done it and it fuckin’ hurts and I can’t just will myself into that again

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Anonymous OP 12w

😂 we had that but you were contrary anyways, sorry for being difficult

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Anonymous #10 12w

It’s ok to let your heart feel something😞✊

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Anonymous OP 12w

if you were just speaking on your experience wouldn’t you have just said “why don’t men yearn for me”

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Anonymous OP 12w

I am not consciously choosing to not yearn, I am simply experienced (jaded) enough that no woman I know inspires it in me

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Anonymous #5 12w

I was contrary to the girl that replied speaking for men bc I wanted a males response in ask men. And then the others were not giving examples and when I asked for examples it turned into something way different

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Anonymous #10 12w

You can’t choose to feel or not feel about something. I’d argue that the way I feel about the women I know has more to do with them than me

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Anonymous OP 12w

I used to yearn for my old girlfriend, driving and hour a day to see her and shiit, but yk i went to training and shit happens so idk

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Anonymous hellraiser 12w

Girl shut up already. It’s a common theme I’ve seen in person, in my life, in my friends life’s, on social media. Most men 20-25 just don’t want a relationship bc of the generation we’re in. So many things have lost meaning

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Anonymous #10 12w

Fair enough, I hope you find someone who inspires you again

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Anonymous OP 12w

😭

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Anonymous OP 12w

I appreciate you, I hope you inspire someone

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I’m surrounded by love and support I have great friends, some of my friends have great boyfriends and their boyfriends have great guy friends. I know good guys exist but everyone’s so quick to jump into hyper sexual non committal relationships (and I get it that’s the culture in college) but it’s not what I’m into god forbid a women have some standards

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Saying “you are what you eat” when you have no idea what you’re talking about is so laughable

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Anonymous #14 12w

☝️

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Anonymous #14 12w

Alright I’m logging off

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Anonymous #5 12w

Yall do too much l

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Anonymous #14 12w

but that kinda has nothing to do w the OP .. they asked about men and you guys kinda turned it onto woman not doing it? which i don’t understand

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Anonymous ireallylikepancakes 12w

Btw I think we go to the same school

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Anonymous #21 12w

I just realized the assault charge sounds so messed up without explanation. There was a dude in highschool who groped her and it didn’t sit well with me so I ended up with 4th degree assault and assault with a deadly weapon but she said I over reacted and it wasn’t that big of a deal, idc what she says tho, I don’t regret it.

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Anonymous #21 12w

As you should, anyone who does that shit deserves a beating.

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Anonymous OP 12w

I still miss my ex. We were together for months, and it was my first actual relationship. We never had sex, we just enjoyed each other’s company. I just want an emotionally fulfilling relationship with a woman, man, etc. but I haven’t found one yet. We parted on good terms, but I’d be lying if I said the breakup didn’t hurt. Does that meet your requirements for “yearning”?

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Anonymous #1 12w

Accurate!

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Anonymous #26 12w

This is such a valid and healthy statement idk why you got downvoted

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Anonymous sea_taco 12w

Lmao go dawgs

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Anonymous ireallylikepancakes 12w

Yep this is crazy

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Anonymous #16 12w

I ain’t even notice

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Anonymous #16 12w

People jus haters tho

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Anonymous #25 12w

Valid

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Anonymous OP 12w

They really arent, women simply have unrealistic standards then bitch and moan on social media about men. You look for the hot guy who is 6”5 with a six figure job then a guy who is 5”10 with a decent job and is mid looking comes around and gets completely pushed off. Goood men are very easy to find you just aint looking

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Anonymous OP 12w

Bc the women of this generation simply aren’t worth “yearning” for

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I’m not into hookup culture

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Anonymous OP 12w

Why do you have such an insanely negative view of men and seem surprised to hear that men can indeed feel deep emotion outside of lust? Jfc

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Anonymous #34 11w

because of men, how they treat women, and how they treat each other! hope this helps

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