Anonymous #1 9w

Porn is a disease and it’s not attractive to not care about yourself sexually in the slightest. Women nowadays are not settling for men who need to get off to fake sex online. I’m sorry.

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Anonymous OP 9w

Cool, I have a really high libedo. I actually used to use it like 4 times a day but I’ve gotten better, now only one or once over two days. I know women who don’t care that I watch it, and I’ll happily date them.

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Anonymous #3 9w

That’s sad

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Anonymous OP 9w

Well horniness is often a powerful emotion to have especially in people’s teenage and young adult years, and not all of us are blessed with partners to help deal with that.

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Anonymous #3 9w

There are healthier ways to relieve yourself sexually without a partner. There are studies that show porn use leads to infidelity, inability to finish during sex, lower self esteem, and more likely to objectify women.

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Anonymous OP 9w

Yes, that’s true, but sometimes you people really want a visual and auto for themselves that things like smut, toys, and the imagination can’t provide. I can’t imagine paying a prostitute would be any better for someone than porn is anyway either.

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Anonymous #3 9w

I also don’t advocate for people seeking out prostitutes, but porn isn’t the only answer. I do think people need to explore other options sexually before porn is their only form of some release. I’ve seen it happen in my personal life and I just haven’t stood up for porn use since. It’s very damaging to the user and everyone involved.

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Anonymous OP 9w

I am aware (I already mentioned toys, smut, and imagination while masturbating), I am just stating why guys us it. Though with women and algorithms pushing OF or other porn like stuff around, many guys do get exposed to that kind of stuff at young ages without even trying to look for them on purpose, and get hooked then and there.

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Anonymous #5 9w

with. Not because talking specifically about that stuff is actually important. But having an… uh, unrealistic outlook on stuff like that suggests a maturity level that could make it harder to have realistic and honest conversations about other, far more important things Plus, like others said. They’re probably not saying it to impress you. Lying and is just a chore and reinforces harmful ideas about it. Being honest when you can feels a lot more liberating and comfortable

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.. . How is using toys and your own brain the same thing as porn. And smut (not porno mags) basically just guides your imagination for you to masturbate to, no potential trafficking or anything like that for just words, and no actual kids and or animals are harmed from smut, but obviously the author should get reported and arrested, and that smut be forever taken down for practically promoting that god awful shit.

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… you don’t think people who wrote child and or beastiality smut should get arrested?,cause that’s who I was saying should get arrested or I guess at the very least be heavy investigated.

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Anonymous #5 9w

this is actually the dumbest thing i’ve ever read lmaoooo bro is actually equating men exploiting women and supporting the sex trafficking industry to women taking shits

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Anonymous #5 9w

The fact your comment has any upvotes is worrying.

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Anonymous #5 9w

It’s almost like women don’t choose to shit and you choose to go on porn sites and watch fake sex to get off, but hey, whatever floats your boat, right?

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Anonymous OP 9w

Op when someone has a grounded take and tries to bring up different perspectives

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Anonymous #4 9w

Genuinely what is your “grounded” take? That women shitting and men watching porn are somehow equal

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Anonymous #4 9w

Whether we agree on using porn or not, I think we can agree your example fell extremely empty.

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Anonymous #1 9w

that is still way too much lmao. sure some women will tolerate it (most are pick me girls anyway) but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t lead to relationship issues. it also indirectly lower testosterone. it increases anxiety and depression and fucks up your prefrontal cortex and brain in general. it’s a supernormal stimulus

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Anonymous #1 9w

not to mention it’s never okay to support such an abusive industry at any capacity

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Anonymous #1 9w

quit porn for a month and see how much better you feel

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Anonymous #3 9w

I’m realizing I did not read ur whole comment

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Anonymous OP 9w

No, not that it’s equal. Those are two different activities and I felt that was obvious and went without saying. But they have (only) the relevant things in common which is why the example works. Expecting men to lie to you so you can defamiliarize something that is, in fact, pretty much universal is not a lot to ask. But at the same time, its not totally reasonable either & you shouldn’t act shocked at the fact that other men deny you that and choose to discuss this stuff honestly (when at all)

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Anonymous #5 9w

not every man watches porn lmao. some have a brain and a conscience

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Anonymous #5 9w

Also; the fact that both your expectation a guy to lie about something like that and your apparent willingness to believe it, DO tell him important information about you. Men dont think watching porn is attractive. But I think we do sometimes worry that lying about it could be far more unattractive if the woman in question isnt that gullible. Arguably it warrants trying to gauge that, but that’s an inexact science. And its arguably not worth lying about depending on what you value in a partner

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Anonymous #6 9w

But every man HAS. And will again. Maybe not all the time. Plenty of good reasons he may go for awhile without. A guy may be on a detox so long that even he thinks it’s permanent. But it’s not, and that distinction isn’t really significant. Not partaking when you don’t feel like it or while you’re getting enough or while you’re on certain meds or whatever doesnt make a guy different; that’s normal. He’ll still do it again as soon as he does feel like it or need postnut clarity or whatever.

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Anonymous #5 9w

Abstinence is circumstantial. But the need to control your self-regulate your horniness is universal for a guy to be a responsible member of society. Porn has risks to manage, of course. but is (so far) the least damaging method we’ve historically come up with so its ubiquity shouldn’t shock us

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Anonymous #5 9w

no every man has not watched porn at some point. you clearly have done no research on this topic. also it seems porn has rotted the writing skills and critical thinking from your brain

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Anonymous #5 9w

The fact you are normalizing addiction so much that you think every man who has quit porn to better himself will ultimately fall back into the same pattern is crazy. I mean this sincerely, I would say all of that to a therapist. I really can’t help someone THAT deluded. If you want to speak without these crazy absolutes then fine.

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Anonymous #7 9w

Who tf is Aqua

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Anonymous #5 9w

and porn is absolutely not the least damaging method. you do know porn is associated with increased sexual violence too right? the least damaging method is just using your fucking imagination that you would have if you didn’t watch porn all the time

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Anonymous OP 9w

You sound frighteningly similar to her

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Anonymous #8 9w

it’s good that you’re trying to get over it! i would make it sooner rather than later, because in the long term it will hurt. and just trying sending videos to each other, and if that doesn’t do enough, that means porn is getting way too much in the way of yalls relationship

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Anonymous OP 9w

I'm not getting off with a real person anytime soon so really it's not that sad

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Anonymous #6 9w

I would prefer sending pictures to her and vise versa. Although that's something she's not entirely comfortable doing, she believes that past relationships have used her for her body and her taking pictures of herself makes her feel like she's being used again. But she has come around recently

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Anonymous OP 9w

"I'm not worried about being attractive" "But it's not attractive to do that" Maybe read what the dude said before replying?

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Anonymous #1 9w

I volunteer

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