That stuff shouldn’t matter if you rlly like a person. Me and my now bf went on multiple dates and I felt like it was going too fast, and he suggested just texting until I was ready to go out again. Everything was on my terms cause it needed to be. If he’s the right guy and someone worth perusing, they’ll wait.
I wouldn’t want to bc it’s generally a sign that she has some self work she should do and probably isn’t completely ready for a relationship. If she’s been working on herself for like a year and it’s just been awhile that’s a different story but I think that’s the minority of ppl like this