Ask Men on Yik Yak | I have been talking to a guy and I told him I’m not looking for sex so early on during the dating process. He agreed but has made sexual comments like “I want to f*ck you”. He chucks it up to liking me a lot and “thats what guys do”. He broke a boundary

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I have been talking to a guy and I told him I’m not looking for sex so early on during the dating process. He agreed but has made sexual comments like “I want to f*ck you”. He chucks it up to liking me a lot and “thats what guys do”. He broke a boundary—

Anonymous 6d

Weird.

Anonymous 6d

he’s being really weird, and probably only agreed in the first place because he thought he could change your mind later. It’s not “abnormal” to keep to boundaries you agreed to set.

Anonymous 6d

Especially the not giving in part seems weird to me— like you say, he doesn’t seem to be respecting your boundaries.

Anonymous 6d

I specifically made and when we talked he understood. He also said that he finds it abnormal that I don’t give in and send bra pics and nudes like he asks for. Apart from those weird comments he’s a great guy but I’m not convinced I see a future with him if he breaks boundaries like this and chucks it up to a man thing because not all men are like this. From a man’s pov am I just not getting it or is he just being weird? For anyone wondering I am F22 and he’s M26.

Anonymous 6d

So by not having sex with you, he broke your boundary of not looking for sex so early on? Could you explain a little more how the boundary was broken? I hear that he was expressing his own wants/desires but that’s part of dating for most people, so maybe it’s more you guys are compatible sexually?

Anonymous

OP 6d

Bro should be out on a fucking watchlist 💀 he’s a sex crime waiting to happen if you don’t already consider his behavior sexual harassment

Anonymous

#6 6d

are not compatible*

Anonymous

#6 6d

He said he finds it abnormal that she doesn’t “give in” and send bra pics and nudes like he asks for— meaning, he is pressuring her to do something she doesn’t want to do.

Anonymous

#6 6d

When he started making the jokes I told him I wasn’t comfortable with that. I like sex jokes but at that time I just didn’t feel comfortable hearing or reciprocating them with him at that time. He understood and then a week later the jokes started up again :(

Anonymous

#1 6d

Ah, yeah didn’t have all of the context was just responding to the post itself. Yeah no bueno then, red flag

Anonymous

OP 6d

Got ya, if you really like him I would share this and how it makes you feel when he does it. He may not have much experience with relationships and the self awareness and active empathy that goes along with it. If it become a pattern then probably not the person for you

Anonymous

#6 6d

That’s what I plan on doing cuz he is an amazing guy and he doesn’t have much relationship experience but this type of behavior is not acceptable. If it’s this now, I don’t want to know what it would be later down the road.