Anonymous seeya_space_cowboy 9w

i personally would never sleep with a roommate

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Anonymous #1 9w

see i just can’t imagine sleeping with a roommate, seems like a terrible idea

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Anonymous #1 9w

why was she one of your worst roommates

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Anonymous OP 9w

and thats good and all, but going into a relationship nobody knows you well enough to trust that. its kinda like schrödingers cat. you're in a house with multiple men who you may or may not have slept with or dated or still be sleeping with/dating, and until someone really gets to know you, theres no way of knowing for sure. the issue is that until we know enough to trust you, you (to go along with the analogy) both have and haven't slept with/dated and both are and aren't still doing so🤷🏽‍♂️

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Anonymous OP 9w

most guys probably feel that the risk is not outweighed by the reward

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Anonymous OP 9w

Oh she just didn’t pick up after herself or cook or anything like that. The rest of us kind of alternated cooking, sweeping, etc., she just didn’t really contribute to the communal areas. And I agree it’s a bad idea overall. Don’t shit where you eat, and all that

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Anonymous #3 9w

why is it not a good look

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Anonymous #1 9w

yeah exactly. i would never do that, but apparently it’s a bad look 🤷🏼‍♀️

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Anonymous seeya_space_cowboy 9w

I'm not saying to trust strangers but I think it's a bit naive to assume that just bc a girl has male roommates means she isn't being honest about her relationship to them. I mean like if a bisexual girl had all girl roommates would it still be sketch?

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Anonymous OP 9w

(Girl) but I wasn’t expecting all of the comments to be about concerns with you sleeping with your roommate😭. From a girls perspective, I don’t think women would think that’s the problem or the concern. They jump to questions about lack of cleanliness or certain women don’t feeling comfortable around men. I have two guy roommates. Don’t know anything about them. Don’t even know one of their real names.

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Anonymous #4 9w

you're missing the point. its not that we're assuming she did, its that if she wanted to she would have a much easier time than a girl who does not have male roomates🤷🏽‍♂️ during the early stages, when you dont know her well enough to trust her, she could be doing anything; we dont know the nature of her relationship. im not saying that it completely counts you out, but its more risk than someone who just lives alone or with family

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Anonymous seeya_space_cowboy 9w

but still if she explains the situation like maybe it was out of her control & she doesn't even interact with them aside from necessities. Maybe they r gay. Maybe they are in relationships. I'm just saying. I'm bisexual and i live with three other women. Only one is straight and no one i've ever gone on a date with shown the same concern that i could have a romantic or sexual history with the other two.

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Anonymous seeya_space_cowboy 9w

i don't think it's any more of a risk than her having male neighbors or coworkers

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Anonymous #4 9w

i mean i get what you're saying but not everyone sees it the same🤷🏽‍♂️ and tbh my brain is fried so i dont really have the capacity to explain it better rn im sorry😭🙏🏽

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Anonymous seeya_space_cowboy 9w

You don't have to explain it again, i understand what you mean. I just think it's naive to see it in the way you do. People have option to cheat regardless if they live with ppl of the gender they r attracted too.

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Anonymous seeya_space_cowboy 9w

like ik plenty of people who've cheated that live alone

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Anonymous #3 9w

That is actually crazy. Thinking a woman has automatically had sexual or romantic encounters with her roommates is wild. Even if they’re all straight

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Anonymous inphochewated 9w

This is kind of ignoring people with lots of experience being cheated on, which kind of validates feeling strongly about partners having other strong relationships. That said, if you catch yourself feeling like that for those reasons, you should probably sort out the trauma before getting into another relationship seeing as 🌈 trust 🌈 is pretty fucking important for a relationship to stay afloat…

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