Ask Men on Yik Yak | Why should I as a woman want to get married to a man? Statistically speaking, a woman’s husband is the biggest threat to her safety, if she were to be beat or murdered it would most likely be the husband who did it. Also unmarried women are happier so ??

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Why should I as a woman want to get married to a man? Statistically speaking, a woman’s husband is the biggest threat to her safety, if she were to be beat or murdered it would most likely be the husband who did it. Also unmarried women are happier so ??

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Anonymous 3w

Then don’t get married to a man

Anonymous 3w

Ok, then leave us guys alone then.

Anonymous 3w

Then don’t tf. Or don’t marry an asshole.

Anonymous 3w

that's like asking why you should drive a car. statistically your car will get you killed but it will also more frequently offer material advantages and comfort that you can't get from other modes of transportation.

Anonymous 3w

Why are you asking us. Seems like your minds decided. If you don’t wanna seek love/companionship that’s only for you to decide

Anonymous 3w

No one's forcing your hand. If you see men as some huge liability to you, then go live your life without any. Tf do you expect us to sell you on?

Anonymous 3w

Maybe just maybe you don’t marry a bad person or an even better idea how about you just stay single

Anonymous 3w

There are lies, there are damned lies, and then there are statistics. It’s about framing. Most husbands are not a danger to their wives, a minority are—and they’re the ones represented in the already population-wise minuscule overall violent crimes stat. You don’t have to get married if you don’t want to, but most of us do, and want to find a partner to love and live life with. It usually works out, sometimes it doesn’t. It’s an important decision fs, & should be treated as such

Anonymous 3w

I want to answer this question without looking at anyone else’s response because I fear the implication of the question will ignite inflammatory reactions. In any case, I don’t know if the ultimate goal of marriage for marriage sake to a man specifically should be a thing. If she wants to marry a man, by all means, do so. I feel the choice to marry someone doesn’t normally come with thoughts that someday that person will murder you. I assume marriage comes from a place of love usually.

Anonymous 3w

girl for the love of god stand tf up 😭

Anonymous 3w

Lesbian marriages have higher rates of domestic violence than heterosexual ones

Anonymous 3w

https://bjs.ojp.gov/female-murder-victims-and-victim-offender-relationship-2021 https://vawnet.org/sc/scope-problem-intimate-partner-homicide-statistics https://www.unodc.org/documents/data-and-analysis/statistics/crime/UN_BriefFem_251121.pdf

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Anonymous 3w

Wanted to get married but now I don’t .. simply because of this. They’ll always be predators in my eyes cause you can’t tell good apart from bad anymore.

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Anonymous

#1 3w

Wasn’t planning on it, was asking why I even would want to in the first place

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Anonymous

#2 3w

Fine by me but don’t come crying about some male loneliness epidemic when women choose themselves🤷🏻‍♀️oh wait people already do that

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Anonymous

OP 3w

… ok?

Anonymous

OP 3w

Should have posted this in ask women. That’s where your target demographic of incel men are

Anonymous

#3 3w

Or dating and relationships

Anonymous

#3 3w

Unfortunately they frequent this community too. And I’m really wanna know what men think the benefit of marriage is to women. Not just trying to argue

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Anonymous

OP 3w

Sure but you’re not doing any work to invite people into conversation. Everything that you’ve said has been combative in nature or accusatory. The original “question” isn’t a question either. It’s a justification for something you’ve already decided. Get your disingenuous ass outta here

Anonymous

OP 3w

Nah just seems like you’re tryna ragebait us

Anonymous

#3 3w

My question is so genuine From a woman’s perspective, what is the benefit to marriage with a man? Genuinely wanna know yalls thoughts

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Anonymous

#5 3w

also there are certain legal protections married women are entitled to that unmarried women are not.

Anonymous

#5 3w

oh, yeah, and it's advantageous to children you may have bc of legal protections, inheritance, psychological and emotional benefits, and medical care.

Anonymous

#5 3w

But do those benefits outweigh the risks? And it’s interesting you brought up children, children don’t need biological parents to survive and similarly I’d say children are also at risk of being harmed by said man. But I wanna look at this from the perspective of just the couple. I think men get way more benefit out of partnership and way less risk

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Anonymous

#1 3w

I wasn’t trying to, and odd way to say “I’m mad”

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Anonymous

#5 3w

And I’d say a vehicle offers way more benefit than an average American husband offers

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Anonymous

OP 3w

Here’s your answer: romance, sex, kids, possibly grandkids in the future, financial benefits

Anonymous

#8 3w

I read a book called “Promised I Can Keep: Why Poor Women Put Motherhood Before Marriage” by Kathryn Edin and Maria Kefalas. It uses interviews with women from different walks of life to illustrate how life choices like marriage and motherhood are made. The variables and a woman considers are vastly different on a case by case basis.

Anonymous

#8 3w

I will say many of the choices are not logical. They are emotional choices, spurred on by circumstance and external expectations like gender roles. It’s a fascinating if not upsetting read. I recommend.

Anonymous

OP 3w

The benefits are personal and unique to each individual woman. I could tell you what I see as a benefit but that wouldn’t really tell you much other than what I, a man, feel is matrimonially beneficial. Maybe that particular man she’s marrying has a useful skill that she doesn’t. Maybe she likes his company. Maybe that man is attractive to her. Sure that would give you a pool of “potential benefits” to consider, but at the end of the day, people get married for whatever reason they feel like.

Anonymous

#4 3w

I can tell, it's quite easy, actually

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Anonymous

#9 3w

You think that until a man you trusted turns out to be awful

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Anonymous

OP 3w

Nope because I'm actually a good judge of character

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Anonymous

#9 3w

Everyone thinks they are a good judge of character until they judge someone’s character incorrectly. I hope it never happens but unfortunately probably will in today’s society

Anonymous

OP 3w

You know people have love for others right? Are you a human?

Anonymous

OP 3w

Why do people eat sugary foods? There’s no benefit besides it makes you feel good. It’s the same thing with this. Women are attracted to men and want to be in relationships with them.

Anonymous

#10 3w

So again what benefit would marriage have as opposed to casual dating? You can still be in relationships

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Anonymous

#10 3w

Nope I’m an AI

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Anonymous

OP 3w

*tap tap* 🎤 Is this thing on?

Anonymous

#8 3w

That’s how I feel bc again unmarried woman can still have fulfilling relationships without getting married

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Anonymous

#9 3w

Good for you. You want a cookie? 🍪

Anonymous

OP 3w

I’m not really sure what you’re trying to argue here. Yes, relationships can be fulfilling without marriage, but that doesn’t really say anything, people are wildly different from each other. Some people really want to get married, some don’t, and that’s okay.

Anonymous

OP 3w

Sounds like you’re already everyone’s last choice to come crying to, bitter doesn’t even touch it. Get a dozen cats and call it a life, Even lesbians don’t need your drama

Anonymous

#17 3w

So what you’re saying is women can’t even get along with other women? What’s the common denominator here

Anonymous

#16 3w

I mean don’t woman initiate most of the divorces, with gay couples having the lowest divorce rate than straight and lesbian couples that have the highest rate out of the three?

Anonymous

#17 3w

That’s not even true that’s based on a misrepresentation of an old atudy

Anonymous

#16 3w

That’s hilarious if only you knew how many men and women wanted to be with me

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Anonymous

OP 3w

Well the reason would be that you found a guy that you wanted to marry.

Anonymous

OP 3w

Sounds like you should be talking to your therapist about the guy that hurt you instead of us.