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Ask Men 9w
it seems many men want to sleep with me but not date me. how can i change this?
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Anonymous 9w

No deadass just never sleep with them. It’s a million times worse to end up past the point of intimacy and realize they never gaf about you. At least realize that before sleeping with them. As soon as they give clues that’s all they’re in for, say “thank u next” and move on. It’s their loss, just remember that!

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Anonymous 9w

idk if it’s you, we’re living in hookup culture

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Anonymous 9w

Respect yourself first, so others can then respect you

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Anonymous 9w

Ask for it on your Christmas list

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Anonymous 9w

Where are you meeting these guys?

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Anonymous 9w

The sex threshold is lower than the commitment threshold for men. U gotta be the most desirable person a given man sees as an option. Thats subjective and partly depends on his tastes and values. But there are consensuses for it too (eg: “conventional attractiveness”). If “be hot” is too obvious as advice goes, then you could (also) work on being fun, adventurous, conversationally engaging (talk about interesting stuff), creative, driven, and have goals & ambitions & stuff ur passionate abt

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 9w

Lmao no

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Anonymous replying to -> freestyle 9w

in person, hinge etc

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Anonymous replying to -> the_9billion_memes_of_god 9w

If you’re not already, think about being someone YOU would want to date.

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 9w

Disagree. Trying to barter sex for a relationship will almost certainly land you in a relationship with a guy who’s using you for sex, but would rather have it without the relationship. The better rule of thumb is to have sex if you want it, and not if you don’t. A relationship is a separate thing. Plus a lot of men reverse your rule, so you wind up creating a lot of incompatibility that way

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Anonymous replying to -> the_9billion_memes_of_god 9w

Agreed. Apparently, there are a lot of bums who would rather wait just to hit once than be alone, so withholding sex may not help much. Hit when you want, don’t when you don’t. Tbh, all you can do is weed these guys out and listen to your gut when feeling out if they fw you like that.

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Anonymous replying to -> the_9billion_memes_of_god 9w

As freestyle said, WHERE you meet these guys also plays some role in the kind of person they might be. Try vibing with people at places where people practice hobbies or things you like doing or talking about as opposed to dating apps and bars, where people often go to get some action.

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Anonymous replying to -> the_9billion_memes_of_god 9w

wdym by reverse the rule

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Anonymous replying to -> the_9billion_memes_of_god 9w

idk i feel like being hot makes this problem worse 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 9w

no offense but i always see unattractive people in better and healthier relationships more than really attractive people (especially girls)

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 9w

yeah i feel like average people who like average people have dating the easiest

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 9w

Except that anyone who would date an average or unattractive person would also date an attractive one. Without exception

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