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Ask Men 4w

would yall be freaked if a girl who has a lot of sexual trauma, told you that, and told you she has a tendency to cry cried during or after sex?

#poll

not at all

yes to both

yes if during

yes if after

70 votes

Anonymous 4w

Well yeah, but I’d tell her I appreciate her trusting me with that and try to help as I can

Anonymous 4w

I will always appreciate openness and my partner being comfortable enough to tell me; being trusted with that means a lot.

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Anonymous 4w

I mean, is she crying because she hates that we are having sex or is she trying to exposure therapy her way back into liking sex because she wants to do it with you? Context matters.

Anonymous 4w

funny that the comment is gone now

Anonymous 4w

Id be a lot more concerned about the context of why, before anything even happens. “Oh btw I might cry because trauma” is putting a pause on whatever’s happening and starting a longer conversation about boundaries, discussing how I can tell her actual feelings the whole time. I’m triple checking that she’ll stop if she’s not happy.

Anonymous 4w

I broke down sobbing ONE TIME while he was mid thrust and I think I scarred that boy for life lmao 😭but tbh it was his own fault he kept pressing me even after I said I wasn’t in the mood

Anonymous 4w

It is a bit weird but in the grand scheme of things not that big of a deal

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Anonymous

#2 4w

I feel like most ppl would be freaked out when learning about someone’s sexual trauma, it’s a freaky thing

Anonymous

#2 4w

understandable

Anonymous

#3 4w

weird? :(

Anonymous

#3 4w

Anonymous

OP 4w

It is weird why r u downvoting me. I don’t think it’s a big deal but objectively crying during sex is weird

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Anonymous

#3 4w

that’s your opinion, not an objective truth

Anonymous

OP 4w

also what abt it is so weird

Anonymous

OP 4w

U clearly know it’s weird bc ur asking if ppl would be freaked out about it. Ppl don’t get freaked out about normal things

Anonymous

OP 4w

Do I even have to explain this?

Anonymous

#3 4w

i think it’s completely normal actually. it happens to a lot of victims.

Anonymous

OP 4w

Sure it’s normal to victims 😭 it’s not normal for a person in general to do

Anonymous

#3 4w

well the context was for a victim

Anonymous

#3 4w

i’m also still not hearing an explanation as to why it’s so weird

Anonymous

OP 4w

Ok? I would still think it was weird even though I would be understanding about it. Being weird doesn’t mean it’s a deal breaker or that ur terrible it’s just not a normal thing

Anonymous

OP 4w

Do ppl normally cry during sex? Exactly

Anonymous

#3 4w

you clearly lack empathy, i hope no victim ever tires to find comfort in you

Anonymous

OP 4w

U clearly posted this not looking for ppls opinions and can’t handle that someone might be supportive of it all but still notice that it’s not normal. Sorry I don’t have the exact opinion ur looking for 🙄

Anonymous

OP 4w

Ppl on the internet can’t handle the slightest bit of nuance

Anonymous

#3 4w

i am open to opinions? i just don’t believe in bashing victims and calling them weird and implying they’re less than for what they’ve gone through.

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Anonymous

#5 4w

If my girl was trying her best to please me and it was something she wanted to do but had a bad history, I’d be trying my best to make it as pleasing to her as possible, do what she wants, and give her the best experience I can. If she has sexual trauma and was freaking over us having sex because she downright hates it, then I don’t think it would be a relationship I could stay in, I am an active sexual person and I have my needs. I can’t do outright asexual atm.