Ask Men on Yik Yak | ig im looking for more general advice, but i have this issue where it seems like a lot of guys are into me, but none of them ever seem to be interested in my personality or want to actually date. they just want sex. idk what to do atp

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Ask Men 15w

ig im looking for more general advice, but i have this issue where it seems like a lot of guys are into me, but none of them ever seem to be interested in my personality or want to actually date. they just want sex. idk what to do atp

Anonymous 15w

Fellow girl here. You need to find or be in environments that have single men who either have accomplished everything you have, or have accomplished more. Like in terms of your values and how you have your life together. Because a guy will run logistics on weather you two will be a good fit, and if he can’t mog you, if he can’t lead you and feel secure in his abilities to do so, he’ll cut it short. A lot of times for a guy to enter a relationship, he has to feel like “I got this.”

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Anonymous 15w

Don’t let them have sex, say you’re waiting until later in your relationship. Then if they want your personality they’ll stay.

Anonymous 15w

Give him a reason to stay, the problem is many girls think giving away sex is how you retain, when it’s only the beginning for something serious

Anonymous

#1 15w

i don’t know what you mean by “give them a reason to stay”, especially since i’m the one leaving. i don’t entertain these guys. i definitely don’t have sex with guys i’m not exclusive with. i don’t get past even just a few days of texting them before i realized they’ll never actually ask me a question about myself or plan a date. i really just block and move on but it always turns out the same way

Anonymous

OP 15w

I see, you’re picking guys that don’t have experience with girls, so I don’t blame you for gtfo of there. It’s going to be a numbers game for you since you wait for exclusivity. When you do come across guys worth staying, then you really show them a reason to stay too ,ie providing more than what any other girl does.

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Anonymous

#1 15w

it’s more like every once in a while i give a guy who expresses interest in me a chance, then it turns out he only cares about the way i look and can’t wait to get in bed with me. i’ve tried approaching guys first but they always seem to think im dtf too. idk how to find the ones that aren’t so superficial and are more relationship oriented.

Anonymous

OP 15w

Look youre not wrong for cutting off the desperate ones, but you need to understand all men ultimately will want that, even the guys who never bring it up, he knows what he’s doing. More than likely, a lot of the guys youre giving a chance to or approach genuinely are interested, but it comes with the other side of the coin. It depends on the guy and his charisma to not display desperation and unfortunately, most guys aren’t waiting for exclusivity, not in today’s climate

Anonymous

#3 15w

I don’t want a girl I have to lead nor do I want to be mogged, I just want a girl who’s an equal partner in the relationship who’s just as accomplished as me

Anonymous

#4 15w

If you don’t want to lead a girl and be reliable for her, I would suggest dating a man.

Anonymous

#3 15w

i agree that insecure men can be a problem but this sounds different than what i’m talking about

Anonymous

#3 15w

I’m happy to support my partner achiever her goals and get to where she wants to be, but I won’t be responsible for her life

Anonymous

#4 15w

Then dont ever get married.

Anonymous

OP 15w

Well if you were looking for a why to their behavior maybe that’s it hun. But yeah, maybe it’s not like that.

Anonymous

#3 15w

I don’t think I really articulated my point well. All I’m saying is that I want someone who’s already ambitious and driven on their own and I don’t want to be in charge or in control of everything in a relationship

Anonymous

#4 15w

Well yeah, no ones asking you to create a person to date